CNN 2011-01-09

All right. Let's travel cross country. First stop, Churchill County, Nevada, where a piece of Americana is no more. Someone cut down the so-called shoe tree along highway 50, just east of Fallon Nevada. The decades old cotton wood tree became known as the shoe tree when a newlywed couple threw each other's shoes into the tree to mark their nuptials¹. Well, the shoe throwing soon became a ritual for tourists. So here's the question, where is all the shoes going to go?

Now, would you be willing to spend 30 days in a lion's den²? James Javelin³ is going just that, all in the name of charity. He's a wildlife rehabilitation⁴ expert that was making his home with two African lions named Lea and Ed.

Finally in Lynnwood, Washington, where a man is wearing tights and a mask and a black and gold rubber suit in a personal fight against crime. One resident says the real-life superhero came to his aid seconds before his car was broken into and could have been stolen. The man in tights is Phoenix⁵ Jones, by the way. Affiliate⁶ KIRO reports that Jones is on crime watch in Lynnwood, nearly every single night.

All right. There's no "I" in team but there is an "I" in marriage. And there is a new school of thought that says keeping yourself satisfied makes for a happier marriage. So whatever happened to the idea that marital⁷ bliss⁸ comes from putting yourself second? Some researchers say it is time to scrap⁹ that question and ask these, instead.

That's right, it's relationship pop quiz time. Here we go. How much does being with your partner result in your having new experiences? How much does your partner increase your ability to accomplish new things?

Well, those are just some of the questions from a quiz developed by Ray Lewandowski of Monmouth University. He is the co-author of this relationship study. He is joining us life from Tampa.

And in LA, the one and only Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger. Her DVD, "Married In A Year", comes out next month.

But Gary, I want to start with you. Those questions from your quiz, they are kind of intense. And you're not just asking, do you like long walks on the beach. How did you devise these questions?

Well. These questions come from the self-expansion model, which was developed by Art and Arlene Erin, my research adviser¹¹ in graduate school. And the idea is that these things are in addition to some of the basics of a solid relationship. So, you know, the basis of a solid relationship is that your partner is your best friend. These are some of the things that in addition to that will help improve your marriage.

So Patti, you're a third generation match maker¹⁰. This is kind of a shift in thinking, isn't it?

Not really. There's nothing revolutionary about this. Most people date up. They want to learn something about somebody. I want to ski, I'll date a skier¹². I want to, you know, become a professor, I'm going to date somebody who is the dean of the school. There is nothing different here. You're going to find things that you have common interest and common values. And, of course, I'm going to want to be entertained. It's not revolutionary. It's what we really do on an subliminal¹³ unconscious level.

Ok, so, so, Gary, let's take it one step further. This sounds really selfish. But you are saying it really helps couples if the relationship helps expand their horizons?

1 nuptials   

n.婚礼；婚礼( nuptial的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Their nuptials were performed by the local priest. 他们的婚礼由当地牧师主持。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• If he married, when the nuptials would take place, and under what circumstances? 如果他结婚，那么什么时候举行婚礼？在什么情况下举行婚礼？ 来自辞典例句

2 den   

n.兽穴；秘密地方；安静的小房间，私室

参考例句：

• There is a big fox den on the back hill.后山有一个很大的狐狸窝。
• The only way to catch tiger cubs is to go into tiger's den.不入虎穴焉得虎子。

3 javelin   

n.标枪，投枪

参考例句：

• She achieved a throw of sixty metres in the javelin event.在掷标枪项目中，她掷了60米远。
• The coach taught us how to launch a javelin.教练教我们投标枪。

4 rehabilitation   

n.康复，悔过自新，修复，复兴，复职，复位

参考例句：

• He's booked himself into a rehabilitation clinic.他自己联系了一家康复诊所。
• No one can really make me rehabilitation of injuries.已经没有人可以真正令我的伤康复了。

5 phoenix   

n.凤凰，长生(不死)鸟；引申为重生

参考例句：

• The airline rose like a phoenix from the ashes.这家航空公司又起死回生了。
• The phoenix worship of China is fetish worship not totem adoration.中国凤崇拜是灵物崇拜而非图腾崇拜。

6 affiliate   

vt.使隶(附)属于；n.附属机构，分公司

参考例句：

• Our New York company has an affiliate in Los Angeles.我们的纽约公司在洛杉矶有一个下属企业。
• What is the difference between affiliate and regular membership?固定会员和附属会员之间的区别是什么？

7 marital   

adj.婚姻的，夫妻的

参考例句：

• Her son had no marital problems.她的儿子没有婚姻问题。
• I regret getting involved with my daughter's marital problems;all its done is to bring trouble about my ears.我后悔干涉我女儿的婚姻问题, 现在我所做的一切将给我带来无穷的烦恼。

8 bliss   

n.狂喜，福佑，天赐的福

参考例句：

• It's sheer bliss to be able to spend the day in bed.整天都可以躺在床上真是幸福。
• He's in bliss that he's won the Nobel Prize.他非常高兴，因为获得了诺贝尔奖金。

9 scrap   

n.碎片；废料；v.废弃，报废

参考例句：

• A man comes round regularly collecting scrap.有个男人定时来收废品。
• Sell that car for scrap.把那辆汽车当残品卖了吧。

10 maker   

n.制造者，制造商

参考例句：

• He is a trouble maker，You must be distant with him.他是个捣蛋鬼，你不要跟他在一起。
• A cabinet maker must be a master craftsman.家具木工必须是技艺高超的手艺人。

11 adviser   

n.劝告者，顾问

参考例句：

• They employed me as an adviser.他们聘请我当顾问。
• Our department has engaged a foreign teacher as phonetic adviser.我们系已经聘请了一位外籍老师作为语音顾问。

12 skier   

n.滑雪运动员

参考例句：

• She is a skier who is unafraid of danger.她是一名敢于冒险的滑雪者。
• The skier skimmed across the snow.滑雪者飞快地滑过雪地。

13 subliminal   

adj.下意识的，潜意识的；太弱或太快以至于难以觉察的

参考例句：

• Maybe they're getting it on a subliminal level.也许他们会在潜意识里这么以为。
• The soft sell approach gets to consumers in a subliminal way.软广告通过潜意识的作用来影响消费者。