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访谈录 2010-05-12&05-16 解读剩女现象-5

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Is it intimidating1 to black men to have two successful, financially independent women like these?

-One of the biggest, again, misconceptions, that women pass amongst themselves is that a man can’t handle being in a relationship with a woman that makes earns more than he does. Because you’ve got to understand the way men think. Men think that situation is temporary, anyway, so a man can handle it. But women believe that he can't, so therefore, they start to erect2 different types of obstacles to the types of communication so they start to even manipulate their own behavior, etc. etc. etc. So that's part of that misinformation we talk about. Another part of the misinformation just to be fair, on men, is something that Steve is talking about. The misinformation piece that we have that a lot of brothers will say, often times, I ain’t get that relationship as soon as I get here or get there. What a lot of brothers don't realize is what Steve said is that if you just look at the data, statistically3 speaking, uh, you have better a chance of getting there in partnership4 with someone than on your own.

-With a lot of my single girlfriends and women that I know that I talk to, it’s not like all of us are trying to date brawlers, so many of us have date a guy that we see potentials in… A lot. Anybody out there (yeah~)dating guys? That they are there! And what happens not in our cases, in a lot of cases, the reason why we end up single is because the man cheats or he does something, no, it’s like, hear me out, Jimi, just hear me out. What I am saying is we come to the table, we say, you know what, but he seems like a good brother, he may not have this on my list, but you know what, together, you know what, we can make it work, and then our hearts were broken, and there were and not  just every woman, but I am just saying that a lot of times we do do that, we do say, you know what, I may want this, but you know what, this is a good man, he seems like a good brother, let me try this.

-We've recognized so much potential, and we sat there and to the, you know, our girlfriends and family say why you want him, because you all don't know what I know, you don't see what I see in this man and I am sticking in here. And then we do that, and we do that and we do that , and then it comes this upgrading thing where you, you know, sometimes, we feel like that we are not adored like other women in other races are adored, that we have sat there and we have worked a couple of jobs and we've said "get out of there and do your thing, do your thing, and then we watch as you leave(That's right~) and go to another woman, uh, and that hurts.

-Do black men have problems with commitment and have a problem with cheating?

-I don't, I don't know. I'll take it, I'll take it, Okay.

-Anybody out had that problem?

-Anybody been cheating on out there?

-'Cause we are tired. 'cause we have been, we have been in there with you, with your potential, God knows, we've been in there, and sometimes it gets to a point where we get tired, you know we're trying.

-Listen to me, Sherri I, I, I, completely hear that and understand, but when you talk about that, I know you are not saying this, but brothers are tired too.

-Okay, okay, all right.

-You have to understand.

-Tired of what? Hill?

-Of what? What you  are tired of? Tell me, what you are tired of? I want to know, I am listening.

-Steve believes me out there.

-Pass me the buck5, Steve.

-Now listen. No.1, we come out and over the last forty or fifty years and you looked at the jobs, you go and transfer out of the industrial age into more of office-based working environment, right? Brothers found it more difficult to find those office jobs, the individuals that they were hiring, the men ,didn't look like we are hiring, were more comfortable hiring black women for those jobs. So what starts happening is that sisters start earning because brothers are having troubles finding jobs. The industrial types of jobs are going away. And all of a sudden, sisters are earning, more sisters getting opportunities within these corporations etc,etc etc. And you have brothers that are finding it more difficult because there are men that are threatened by brothers that are running things.

-I agree, absolutely.

-I totally agree with him.

-So, when I say brothers are tired in a certain way , I am not saying they are tired of black women, I am saying they are tired of dealing6 with the things that you are dealing as a black man attempting to get you a piece, your piece of pie. So what happens is, what do brothers want at the end of the day after dealing with that? They want to come home to a sister who has some, you know, listen up, in a way, joy, efforts of vesence life whatever.

-Free! Be real.

-So, so, I’m not saying and trust me, I’m not saying that means everything you just walk around, and you will just pull your hair just, you know, happy-go-lucky. But the point is we have been mature enough, put a baggage where we both come to each other raw, naked, kinda hurt, but saying, together we are gonna solve this problem. When I get invited to the event, you’re gonna come with me, period.

-I don't think that, you know, overwhelmingly that black women, successful black women ,especially don't want to be there for their men. And anyway, and that we don't want to be happy and loving and nurturing7 when you come home from a hard day, we get it. We doubt with so many things as yong women ,as a whole that a lot of other races have committed suicide over as young people. You know the molestation8, the grown-ups without a father, the being forced into growing up too fast around the house 'cause mom gotta work two or three jobs. If you are brown skin, or if you are heavy, or if you are not as attractive as the girls in the magazine, feeling like you are not pretty enough. So, when you talk about being happy when you come home, when you act to that, that the man may be cheating on you or not seeming appreciative9 of what you are trying to do, then it hurts.

-Well, do you find that black women are too angry and too bitter, is that what you are saying as a man?

-No, that's not what I am saying.

-No, I am not saying this.

-No.

-No?

-What I am saying, what I am saying…

-You did say that! You did say it.

-What I am saying, what I’m saying, in total, you can pick out as many different voices as you want. What I’m saying in total is, I think we all just want partners. You know, to be honest, I don't want a woman that's home wait when you get home from work. Because I mean she is not out earning, so it is, our.. hold on, hold on a second, hold on, hold on, hold on, because I want a partner, I want a partner, hold on, hold on. hold on, hold on

-It is the way you say it. I know, I know...

-Let me finish, let me finish. When she gets home from her job, I wanna have dinner ready, I wanna be pulling off her shoes and I wanna rub her feet.

-Okay. But you can't take the cornrows out of her hair.
 


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1 intimidating WqUzKy     
vt.恐吓,威胁( intimidate的现在分词)
参考例句:
  • They were accused of intimidating people into voting for them. 他们被控胁迫选民投他们的票。
  • This kind of questioning can be very intimidating to children. 这种问话的方式可能让孩子们非常害怕。
2 erect 4iLzm     
n./v.树立,建立,使竖立;adj.直立的,垂直的
参考例句:
  • She held her head erect and her back straight.她昂着头,把背挺得笔直。
  • Soldiers are trained to stand erect.士兵们训练站得笔直。
3 statistically Yuxwa     
ad.根据统计数据来看,从统计学的观点来看
参考例句:
  • The sample of building permits is larger and therefore, statistically satisfying. 建筑许可数的样本比较大,所以统计数据更令人满意。
  • The results of each test would have to be statistically independent. 每次试验的结果在统计上必须是独立的。
4 partnership NmfzPy     
n.合作关系,伙伴关系
参考例句:
  • The company has gone into partnership with Swiss Bank Corporation.这家公司已经和瑞士银行公司建立合作关系。
  • Martin has taken him into general partnership in his company.马丁已让他成为公司的普通合伙人。
5 buck ESky8     
n.雄鹿,雄兔;v.马离地跳跃
参考例句:
  • The boy bent curiously to the skeleton of the buck.这个男孩好奇地弯下身去看鹿的骸骨。
  • The female deer attracts the buck with high-pitched sounds.雌鹿以尖声吸引雄鹿。
6 dealing NvjzWP     
n.经商方法,待人态度
参考例句:
  • This store has an excellent reputation for fair dealing.该商店因买卖公道而享有极高的声誉。
  • His fair dealing earned our confidence.他的诚实的行为获得我们的信任。
7 nurturing d35e8f9c6b6b0f1c54ced7de730a6241     
养育( nurture的现在分词 ); 培育; 滋长; 助长
参考例句:
  • These delicate plants need careful nurturing. 这些幼嫩的植物需要精心培育。
  • The modern conservatory is not an environment for nurturing plants. 这个现代化温室的环境不适合培育植物。
8 molestation f7008a1bafc8cde16fe27be6848fdede     
n.骚扰,干扰,调戏;折磨
参考例句:
  • Michael Jackson is arrested by police on charges of child molestation. 2003年的今天,迈克尔·杰克逊因被警方指控有儿童性骚扰行为而被捕。 来自互联网
  • Jackson pleads not guilty on the molestation charges. 2004年:杰克逊认罪不认罪的性骚扰指控。 来自互联网
9 appreciative 9vDzr     
adj.有鉴赏力的,有眼力的;感激的
参考例句:
  • She was deeply appreciative of your help.她对你的帮助深表感激。
  • We are very appreciative of their support in this respect.我们十分感谢他们在这方面的支持。
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