访谈录[Interview]2007-10-04:Rekindle Your Sex Life 重燃激情(2)

...a little scene...ah we haven't had sex in 5 weeks. Do I come home and say what's the problem or let's try something different in the bedroom?

Well I would/ first say go ahead, Carpe Diem, say I miss you,I love you, we haven't done it for a while. You don't even have to point that out, but I want you right now. Who can really resist that even if they're not in the mood?

You'll be surprised.
You'll be surprised.

But the other thing I would like somebody know too is that I'm really, you know, hurting or missing you, I would like for us to be intimate again. It means a lot to me. What could we do to make it sure that this is an important priority for us?

When...when should couples at then get therapy because, I... you know, I'll tell you doctors we do a lousy job. I'll be the first one to tell you when the topic of sex, you know, education and sex health comes into...into the office. I don't have the knowledge and, you know, we...I know it's kind of like-conversation and I do say some of the things that you just mentioned. But I don't... we don't have the training to deal with sexual dysfunctions especially in couples, let's say get a little bit older. When should they go seek professional help?

Well if somebody wants to see a therapist or counselor¹, I would say do it because you are dealing² with trauma³, with some major problems in your childhhood with negative messaging about sex basically past issues. But if you are looking to take care of what's going on at present, and get to a better place in the future, go to a sex coach even deal with a sex educator, because they'll take where you are right now and they'll give you the tools and information you need for a better sex life.

And they put the spice back into the relationship. The hot sauce.

Exactly.

Eh... let's deal with distractions⁴ because it's another thing, we know, we got work, we got kids, we got homework, you know, in my house I got 3 little ones running around all the time. What do you do? You wake up at 2 o'clock in the morning and you do it?

Some people might opt⁵ to do that. Go for the quicky as well. So, I'm sure you know the more sex you have, the more sex you are going to want.That's partly because we keep that Testosterone going in our system.

The quicky.

And the quicky doesn't have to be an all-out intercourse⁶. It could be kissing. It could be other forms of touching⁷ each other's genitals. It doesn't have to always be all-out lovemaking. And it could be in little secret places like their shower in the morning before you go to work.

OK. Any, aside from the whole the quicky thing. Any food? Anything? Should I buy oysters⁸, er, chocolate anything like that?

Well the thing I knew about aphrodisiacs is anything you think is sexy will become sexy to you. It's your brain that is your biggest sex organ.

There you go, the brain.

Yeah,so it's all a mental game. And if you think chocolate turns you on, go for it.

Alright.

If, you know she needs a little bit of champagne⁹ to get her going.

Yeah.Alright.Thank you Dr. Fulbright. Well there you have it, you know, you gotta put the spice back in your sex life and always use your brain. So until next time, have to hug the Manny with Health Talk.

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Carpe Diem: [Latin] The admonition to seize the pleasures of the moment without thought for the future.

genital: The external organ or organs of reproduction, esp. of the male.

aphrodisiac: Any of various forms of stimulation¹⁰ thought to arouse sexual excitement.

1 counselor   

n.顾问，法律顾问

参考例句：

• The counselor gave us some disinterested advice.顾问给了我们一些无私的忠告。
• Chinese commercial counselor's office in foreign countries.中国驻国外商务参赞处。

2 dealing   

n.经商方法，待人态度

参考例句：

• This store has an excellent reputation for fair dealing.该商店因买卖公道而享有极高的声誉。
• His fair dealing earned our confidence.他的诚实的行为获得我们的信任。

3 trauma   

n.外伤，精神创伤

参考例句：

• Counselling is helping him work through this trauma.心理辅导正帮助他面对痛苦。
• The phobia may have its root in a childhood trauma.恐惧症可能源于童年时期的创伤。

4 distractions   

n.使人分心的事[人]( distraction的名词复数 )；娱乐，消遣；心烦意乱；精神错乱

参考例句：

• I find it hard to work at home because there are too many distractions. 我发觉在家里工作很难，因为使人分心的事太多。
• There are too many distractions here to work properly. 这里叫人分心的事太多，使人无法好好工作。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 opt   

vi.选择，决定做某事

参考例句：

• They opt for more holiday instead of more pay.他们选择了延长假期而不是增加工资。
• Will individual schools be given the right to opt out of the local school authority?各个学校可能有权选择退出地方教育局吗？

6 intercourse   

n.性交；交流，交往，交际

参考例句：

• The magazine becomes a cultural medium of intercourse between the two peoples.该杂志成为两民族间文化交流的媒介。
• There was close intercourse between them.他们过往很密。

7 touching   

adj.动人的，使人感伤的

参考例句：

• It was a touching sight.这是一幅动人的景象。
• His letter was touching.他的信很感人。

8 oysters   

牡蛎( oyster的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• We don't have oysters tonight, but the crayfish are very good. 我们今晚没有牡蛎供应。但小龙虾是非常好。
• She carried a piping hot grill of oysters and bacon. 她端出一盘滚烫的烤牡蛎和咸肉。

9 champagne   

n.香槟酒；微黄色

参考例句：

• There were two glasses of champagne on the tray.托盘里有两杯香槟酒。
• They sat there swilling champagne.他们坐在那里大喝香槟酒。

10 stimulation   

n.刺激，激励，鼓舞

参考例句：

• The playgroup provides plenty of stimulation for the children.幼儿游戏组给孩子很多启发。
• You don't get any intellectual stimulation in this job.你不能从这份工作中获得任何智力启发。