彭蒙惠英语：The Languages of Love

The Languages of Love

 

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Love Language #3: Receiving Gifts

A gift is something you can hold in your hand—a visual symbol of love. Gifts come in all shapes and sizes and may be purchased, found or made. If a person’s love language is receiving gifts, you need to become a gift giver. Don’t wait for a special occasion¹. Almost anything you give will be received as an expression of love.

 

Love Language #4: Acts of Service

Showing love to someone whose love language is “acts of service” means doing things you know that person would like you to do. You seek to please that person by serving them. For a married couple, this love language may involve actions like cooking a meal, washing dishes or watching the kids. Acts of service require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love.

 

Love Language #5: Physical Touch

Within a marriage or a family, physical touch is a powerful way to communicate love. For some individuals, physical touch is more important than hearing the words “I love you.” Without it, some feel unloved. Holding hands, embracing², kissing, hugging and even giving a pat³ on the back are all ways of communicating love. Giving “love touches” to your spouse⁴, children or friends will speak volumes if their main love language is physical touch.

 

Discover your love language

Before you begin to speak the language of love to others, know your own love language! If you’re not sure what it is, take time to write down the answers to the following questions: What makes you feel most loved? How do you like others to show love to you?

 

You may realize you have more than one love language. Share your findings⁵ with those who love you—and start speaking their love languages. You’ll be amazed⁶ at how good it feels to love them uniquely!

 

 

Vocabulary Focus

symbol (n) [5simbEl] something used to represent a quality or idea

expression (n) [iks5preFEn] the act of saying what one thinks or showing how one feels by using words or actions

speak volumes (idiom) to make an opinion, characteristic or situation very clear without the use of words

 

爱的语言

 

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第三种爱的语言：收到礼物

礼物是一种你可以拿在手上的东西—— 一种看得到的爱的象征。有各式各样可以买到、找到或制作的礼物。如果一个人的爱的语言是收到礼物，你就要变成送礼的人。不必等到特殊场合。几乎你给的任何东西都会被接受，且被当成是爱的表示。

 

第四种爱的语言：服务的行为

如果一个人的爱的语言是服务的行为，对他示爱的方式就是去做你所知道的他喜欢你做的事。你希望取悦他，所以为他服务。对夫妻来说，这种爱的语言可能包括像煮顿饭、洗碗盘或看小孩之类的事。服务的行为需要思考、计划、时间、努力和精力。如果带着积极的态度去做，就是真正的爱的表示。

 

第五种爱的语言：身体接触

在婚姻或家庭里，身体接触是传达爱的有力方式。对有些人来说，身体接触比听到“我爱你”还重要。有的人觉得没有接触，就没有被爱的感觉。握手、拥抱、亲吻、紧抱甚至于拍拍背都是传达爱的方式。如果你的伴侣、孩子或朋友的爱的主要语言是身体接触，给他们“爱的接触”会胜过千言万语。

 

发现自己的爱的语言

在你开始向别人诉说爱的语言之前，了解你自己的爱的语言！如果你不确定，花点时间回答下列问题：怎样能最让你感觉被爱？你喜欢别人怎么向你示爱？

你可能发现你有不止一种爱的语言。和那些爱你的人分享你的发现，并且开始说他们的爱的语言；你会发现，用独特的方式爱他们，感觉真是好得惊人。 

 

1 occasion   

n.场合，时机，机会，诱因，理由；vt.惹起，引起

参考例句：

• Her dress was too showy for such a formal occasion.在如此正式的场合，她的服装过分华丽了。
• Her tears were fought back on such an occasion.在这种场合下她忍住了眼泪。

2 embracing   

拥抱( embrace的现在分词 )； 包括； 包含； 接受

参考例句：

• You can not possibly make an all-embracing proposal. 你不可能提出一个包罗万象的建议。
• To embrace her was like embracing a jointed wooden image. 若是拥抱她，那感觉活像拥抱一块木疙瘩。 来自英汉文学

3 pat   

n.轻拍，拍打声；vt.轻拍，拍打；vi.轻跑，轻击；adv.适时，彻底；adj.油腔滑调的，恰好的，合适的

参考例句：

• Could you hear the pat?你能听到轻轻的拍击声吗？
• He gave her a reassuring pat on the shoulder. 他轻拍了一下她的肩膀让她放心。

4 spouse   

n.配偶(指夫或妻)

参考例句：

• Her spouse will come to see her on Sunday.她的丈夫星期天要来看她。
• What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?在婚姻中保持配偶幸福的最好方法是什么？

5 findings   

n.发现物( finding的名词复数 )；调查（或研究）的结果；（陪审团的）裁决

参考例句：

• It behoves us to study these findings carefully. 我们理应认真研究这些发现。
• Their findings have been widely disseminated . 他们的研究成果已经广为传播。

6 amazed   

adj.吃惊的，惊奇的v.使大为吃惊，使惊奇( amaze的过去式和过去分词 )

参考例句：

• Just the size of the place amazed her. 仅仅地方之大就使她十分惊奇。
• I was amazed at her knowledge of French literature. 她的法国文学知识之丰富使我大为惊奇。