趣味英语第67期:怎么能忘了伤我很深却仍让我很在乎的人

Nuebish wants to know...

Nuebish想知道：

"How do I forget somebody who really hurt me but still care about?"

“我怎么能忘了伤我很深却仍让我很在乎的人？”

All right, nuebish, this is a tough one.

nuebish，这很难。

Stop thinking about them.

不要再想那些人了。

Think about someone else.

想想其他人。

Don't think about that person. Don't talk to that person.

不要再想那个人了。不要再和那个人说话了。

Try to find some positive people in your life and hang out with them more.

试图在生活中找到乐观积极的人，多和那些人相处。

If it's your girlfriend, if she hurt you...move on!

如果那是你的女朋友，如果她伤害了你，那就继续过自己的生活！

If it's a relationship matter, then find someone else. If it's not, then just don't think about them. Think that, "No, they hurt me. I do not care about them anymore."

如果是恋爱关系，那你要去找更好的人。如果不是恋爱关系，那就不要去想他们了。你可以这样想：“他们伤害了我。我再也不在乎他们了。”

It's time to think positive and move on and look for somebody who's not gonna hurt you.

现在是时候开始积极的思考了，向前看，去找不会伤害你的人。

You don't necessarily¹ have to completely² forget about them. I just think that it's important to maybe give them some space.

你不必完全忘掉他们。我认为重要的是给他们一些空间。

If they meant that much to you you won't forget them, the best you can do is try and figure out the lessons you learned³ from being with that person, and you know, take it from there. Turn it into a positive.

如果他们对你如此重要，你忘不了他们，那你所能做的最好选择就是从和那个人相处中吸取教训，从中做出决断。将它变成积极的事情。

Forgiveness is the only way, dude.

伙计，原谅是唯一的方法。

Forgiving that person is a good way to move on with yourself emotionally⁴, and then you just kinda forget as time just goes on.

原谅那个人是整理自己感情的最好方法，随着时间的推移，你会忘掉的。

If you don't talk about it and discuss between you and your friend who you care about, I think that will be carried on for the rest of your life. Talk about it right away and get that resolved⁵.

如果你不去谈论这件事，不去和你在乎的那个朋友说清楚，我想你的余生都会一直想着这件事。现在马上就去和那个人谈谈，解决这个问题。

1 necessarily   

adv.必要地，必需地；必定地，必然地

参考例句：

• More work does not necessarily call for more men.增加工作量不一定就要增添人员。
• A voter must necessarily be no younger than eighteen.选民必须在18岁以上。

2 completely   

adv.完全地，十分地，全然

参考例句：

• She never completely gave up hope.她从不完全放弃希望。
• I feel completely in the dark on this question.这件事使我感到茫然。

3 learned   

adj.有学问的，博学的；learn的过去式和过去分词

参考例句：

• He went into a rage when he learned about it.他听到这事后勃然大怒。
• In this little village,he passed for a learned man.在这个小村子里，他被视为有学问的人。

4 emotionally   

adv.感情上，情绪上，冲动地

参考例句：

• a special school for emotionally disturbed children 为精神异常儿童开办的特殊学校
• A wide range of emotionally stressful events may trigger a relapse. 多种令人情绪紧张的事情都可能引起旧病复发。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 resolved   

adj.下定决心的，断然的；坚决的；已解决的v.做决定，分解(resolve的过去式和过去分词)

参考例句：

• I was resolved not to see him. 我决意不见他。
• The union resolved to strike by 40 votes to 18. 工会以40票对18票通过决议举行罢工。 来自《简明英汉词典》