实战口语情景对话 第390期:How to Get a Date 如何约会

 　　Mike: OK, so for those of us listening who are not familiar¹ with dating in the US, practices are different, Mark, how would you go about getting a date with somebody in the US?

　　迈克：为了那些不熟悉美国约会情况的听众，约会方法会不同，马克，在美国你会怎么和他人约会呢？

　　Mark: Ah, well, I, that's a difficult question because you know I don't always succeed with that, but I guess usually you like a girl. You begin talking to her and find some things in common with her and, I don't know, if you feel like she likes you and you like her then you ask her out.

　　马克：嗯，那是个非常难的话题，因为你知道，我并不是每次都会成功，通常你喜欢一个女孩，你会开始和她聊天，寻找你和她的共同点，其实我也不太清楚，如果你感觉到她喜欢你，而你也喜欢她的话，那你就可以约她出去。

　　Mike: OK, what would you say? "Do you feel like going out this evening?" or "What are your plans?" or "Are you busy?"

　　迈克：好，那你会怎么说呢？“你今晚想和我去约会吗？”还是“你有安排吗？”还是“你忙吗？”

　　Mark: Well,those, all of those ways are so typical². Their so usual, so I don't use those, I don't say those things because I feel like it's just too common, so I think women, or girls, usually respond³ better if you're very direct⁴, so I say something more like, um "So which is better for you, Friday night or Saturday night?"

　　马克：嗯，那些方法都太普通，太平常了，所以我不会用，我不会那么说，因为我觉得那太普通了，我想如果你非常直接的问，女孩的回应一般会很好，所以我会说“你哪天有空，周五晚上还是周六晚上？”

　　Mike: OK, and they resond with a slaped face, or no? Then, what do they say to you?

　　迈克：好，那她们会打你一巴掌还是别的？那她们会怎么回答你？

　　Mark: You'd be surprised. Usually, it's, um, some good responses⁶. I mean if the person doesn't like you then maybe they give you an excuse, "Oh, I'm busy Friday and I'm busy Saturday." Well, that's OK. Then you know, that that person doesn't like you (right) but, um, but usually that direct question, it, the girl or the woman is often surprised that you're so direct so she laughs and she tells you an answer, "I'm free Friday." So you get a good response⁵ many times with direct questioning like that.

　　马克：你会很惊讶的。一般来说，有些回应是好的。我是说，如果那个人不喜欢你，那她们可能会找个借口，比如“哦，我周五晚上和周六晚上都很忙。”那还好。但是你知道那个人不喜欢你（对），但是通常这种直接的问题会让女孩感到惊讶，因为你太直接了，所以她会笑，然后会告诉你她的回答，“我周五有空。”所以多数时间直接的问题你都会得到这样的良好的回答。

　　Mike: OK, and what would you do then on your, on a date? Would you say, "Great, let's go bowling⁷!" or?

　　迈克：好，那之后你们约会的时候会做什么呢？你会不会说，“太好了，我们去打保龄球吧！”还是其他的？

　　Mark: I would set a time and again, I think it's not so important, what you do, as it is important to, to just make a decision and to do it, so some girls might not like bowling but if you pick her up on a date and you say, "Hey, we're going bowling tonight." If she really doesn't like bowling, she will tell you but usually if she doesn't mind bowling then she's happy that you made the choice. That's better than asking her, "So, what do you want to do tonight?"

　　马克：我会定个时间，我认为你们做什么并不重要，重要的是要做出决定然后去实施，一些女孩可能不喜欢打保龄球，但是如果接她去约会，然后你说：“嘿，我们今晚要去打保龄球。”如果她真的不喜欢打保龄球，她会告诉你，但是如果她不介意打保龄球，那她会很高兴你做出了决定。这要比问她“那我们今晚要做什么”好很多。

　　Mike: I guess especially if you're the one spending the money for it then.

　　迈克：我想尤其是你还是那个要付钱的人。

　　Mark: That's a good point. Yes. Absolutely⁸.

　　马克：说得对。对，绝对是的。

　　Mike: It'll work out well for both. Well, thanks a lot, Mark. That's great.

　　迈克：对双方来说都会很顺利的。马克，非常谢谢你。那太棒了。

　　Mark: You're welcome.

　　马克：不客气。

1 familiar   

adj.熟悉的，常见的，亲密的；n.熟友，常客

参考例句：

• I've only just come here.I'm still not familiar with the work.刚到这里，工作很生。
• The man seemed familiar,but I could not quite place him.这人很面熟，但是我记不清在哪儿见过他。

2 typical   

adj.典型的，象征的，有代表性的

参考例句：

• This is typical Chinese English.这是典型的中式英语。
• It is a typical Persian garden.这是个典型的波斯式花园。

3 respond   

vi.回答，响应

参考例句：

• I offered him a drink but he did not respond.我请他喝酒，但他未作回答。
• I greeted him but he didn't respond.我跟他打招呼，他没答理我。

4 direct   

adj.直接的；直达的；v.指挥；知道；监督；管理

参考例句：

• This train is direct,you do not have to change.这辆火车是直达的，你不必换车。
• The army is under the king's direct command.军队由国王直接统帅。

5 response   

v.应答；n.反应，回答，响应

参考例句：

• There has been very little response to our call for help.我们求助的号召没有多少响应。
• They gave a cold response to his suggestions.他们对他的建议反应冷淡。

6 Responses   

n.反应( response的名词复数 )；回答；（礼拜仪式中的）答唱咏；[基督教]（礼拜仪式中会众同牧师）轮流应答（或吟唱）的祈祷文

参考例句：

• The above-mentioned working paper has received favorable responses from many countries. 上述工作文件得到了许多国家的支持和响应。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• To me, all these spontaneous responses of his were contemptible and despicable. 他的这些，在我看来都是笑柄，可鄙的。 来自汉英文学 - 散文英译

7 bowling   

n.保龄球运动

参考例句：

• Bowling is a popular sport with young and old.保龄球是老少都爱的运动。
• Which sport do you 1ike most,golf or bowling?你最喜欢什么运动，高尔夫还是保龄球？

8 absolutely   

adv.绝对地；完全地

参考例句：

• The plane absolutely refused to start.这架飞机完全发动不起来。
• All the car parks are absolutely full.所有的停车场都停满了车。