豆知识 2009-09-13&09-19 学会赞美他人

 Did you know that compliments are so good that they can heal your harmed relationship? Hi, I'm Hazely Lopez from Hazely Academy of Refinements¹ and Modeling and I'm here to talk to you about how to compliment people.

 

You first, of course, want to think about sincerity². If you're going to give a compliment, make it sincere. Don't fake it, don't fake admiration³.

 

Also, be specific. For example, "Your dinner was really good". You can actually go more specific than that, "This steak was really well cooked. Thank you," or, "smells really good." Actually, after that, you want to follow that with an action. If you said it was good, eat it, don't just leave it there. This is going to show that you were faking it.

 

Also, it's good to say it in front of people. If you're meeting somebody, you may want to add "and this was my really great cook that I was talking to you about." Adding those compliments make people respected and feel really good about themselves.

 

Also, avoid confusing compliments with envy. It will be really awkward if somebody feels that you're telling it just because you feel envy about it. So just avoid saying that you'd like to have the same of those. I'm Hazely Lopez from Hazely Academy of Refinements and Modeling and just a little tip, always remember to compliment your spouse⁴ once a day.

 

1 refinements   

n.（生活）风雅；精炼( refinement的名词复数 )；改良品；细微的改良；优雅或高贵的动作

参考例句：

• The new model has electric windows and other refinements. 新型号有电动窗和其他改良装置。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• It is possible to add a few useful refinements to the basic system. 对基本系统进行一些有益的改良是可能的。 来自《简明英汉词典》

2 sincerity   

n.真诚，诚意；真实

参考例句：

• His sincerity added much more authority to the story.他的真诚更增加了故事的说服力。
• He tried hard to satisfy me of his sincerity.他竭力让我了解他的诚意。

3 admiration   

n.钦佩，赞美，羡慕

参考例句：

• He was lost in admiration of the beauty of the scene.他对风景之美赞不绝口。
• We have a great admiration for the gold medalists.我们对金牌获得者极为敬佩。

4 spouse   

n.配偶(指夫或妻)

参考例句：

• Her spouse will come to see her on Sunday.她的丈夫星期天要来看她。
• What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?在婚姻中保持配偶幸福的最好方法是什么？