豆知识 2010-08-15&08-21 约会过程中的五个禁区

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, I'm a life and relationship coach and owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. 

 

 

 

In this clip¹ we'll talk about the five biggest red flags with dating. 

 

 

 

Number one is if he's controlling or she's controlling, they don't give you an opinion, they don't, they've got to have control of every situation, huge red flag. 

 

 

 

Second red flag is they talk about their ex. Don't talk about your exs on relationship. This is about you and them, it has nothing to do with anybody else, leave them out of the picture. If they're talking too much about their ex, it means they're probably not over them yet, and, you know, or they could be, if they're being nasty² about them, that's not a good thing either. 

 

 

 

The next red flag is if they're negative. Everything they say is a complaint, this person is lousy, they're complaining about everything, negative people are not too good. 

 

 

 

If they want to move the relationship too fast, that's a red flag, there should be a slow pace to a relationship. If they want to pull you into everything that they're doing at the most, you know, they're probably codependent, it's not a good sign if they're moving too fast. 

 

 

 

And secondly³ is if they don't listen to you when you talk. If they're not remembering things you say, if they're constantly interrupting you, that's a huge red flag. 

 

 

 

I'm Donna Barnes, life and dating coach in New York City.

1 clip   

n.夹子，别针，弹夹，片断；vt.夹住，修剪

参考例句：

• May I clip out the report on my performance?我能把报道我的文章剪下来吗？
• She fastened the papers together with a paper clip.她用曲别针把文件别在一起。

2 nasty   

adj.令人讨厌的，困难的，恶劣的，下流的

参考例句：

• She got a nasty knock on the head when she fell.她跌倒时头部受到严重碰撞。
• When this material burns，it flings off a nasty smell.这种物质燃烧时发出一股难闻的气味。

3 secondly   

adv.第二，其次

参考例句：

• Secondly,use your own head and present your point of view.第二，动脑筋提出自己的见解。
• Secondly it is necessary to define the applied load.其次，需要确定所作用的载荷。