英语沙龙:That "Other Woman" in My Life我生命中的"另一

That "Other Woman" in My Life

After 22 years of marriage, I’ve discovered the secret to keeping love and intimacy¹ alive in my relationship with my wife, Peggy：I started dating another woman.

The“other woman”my wife was encouraging me to date is my mother, a 72-year-old widow² who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago. Right after his death, I moved 2,500 miles away to California and started my own family and career. When I moved back near my hometown six years ago, I promised myself that I would spend more time with Mom. But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays.

She was surprised and suspicious³, then, when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie."What’s wrong?”she asked. My mother thinks anything out of the ordinary signals bad news. “I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “Just the two of us. ""I’d like that a lot."she replied.

As I drove to her house, I actually had a case of predate1) jitters2).What would we talk about？What if she didn’t like the restaurant I chose？

When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled⁴, and she was smiling. “I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed, ”she said as she got into my car. “They can’t wait to hear about our evening. ”

We didn’t go anywhere fancy⁵, just a neighborhood place where we could talk. My mother clutched3)  my arm, half out of affection⁶ and half to help her negotiate4) the restaurant steps. Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. Halfway⁷ through reciting the entrées, I glanced up and saw Mom looking at me, a wistful smile on her lips. “I used to be the menu-reader when you were little,” she said. I understood what she was saying. From caregiver to cared-for, from cared-for to care giver, our relationship had come full circle. “Then it’s time for you to relax and let me return the favor, ”I said. We had a nice talk over dinner. Nothing earth-shattering, just catching⁸ up with each other’s lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. "I’ll go out with you again,"my mother said as I dropped her off, “But only if you let me buy dinner next time. ”I agreed.

“How was your date?”my wife asked when I got home that evening. "Nice. . . nicer than I thought it would be,"I said. She smiled her told-you-so smile.

Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Sometimes we take in a movie, but mostly we talk. I tell her about my trials at work and brag⁹ about the kids and Peggy. Mom fills me in on family gossip¹⁰ and tells me about her past. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World WarⅡ. I know how she met my father there, and how they nurtured¹¹ a trolley-car5) courtship through those difficult times. I can’t get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the days ahead. “I have so much living to do, ”she told me once. “I need to be there while my grandchildren grow up. I don’t want to miss any of it. ”

I tend to fill my calendar6) to the brim¹² as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life. I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down.
 

1 intimacy   

n.熟悉，亲密，密切关系，亲昵的言行

参考例句：

• His claims to an intimacy with the President are somewhat exaggerated.他声称自己与总统关系密切，这有点言过其实。
• I wish there were a rule book for intimacy.我希望能有个关于亲密的规则。

2 widow   

n.寡妇

参考例句：

• Martha was a very rich young widow.玛莎是个很有钱的年轻寡妇。
• All this money was appropriated for the support of his widow.所有这些钱作为给他的遗孀的抚养费。

3 suspicious   

adj.可疑的，容易引起怀疑的，猜疑的，疑心的

参考例句：

• A man was hanging about the house in a suspicious manner.一个男人在房子周围可疑地荡来荡去。
• He's so suspicious he would distrust his own mother.他这个人疑心太重，连自己的母亲也不相信。

4 curled   

adj.卷曲的，卷发状的，卷缩的v.（使）弯曲( curl的过去式和过去分词 )；（使）卷曲；盘旋；缠绕

参考例句：

• She lay curled up in a foetal position . 她像胎儿一样蜷曲地躺着。
• The snake was curled up in the long grass. 在深草中，这条蛇盘着身子。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 fancy   

n.想像力，幻想；喜好，爱；adj.想像的，时髦的，华丽装饰的，奢侈的；技巧的；vt.想象，自认为，喜好

参考例句：

• He seemed to have taken quite a fancy to her.他似乎相当喜欢她。
• I have a fancy that it's going to rain.我想大概要下雨。

6 affection   

n.喜爱；爱慕，感情；倾向，意向

参考例句：

• The handsome young man excited affection in a girl.那位英俊的年轻男子引起了一个女孩的爱慕之情。
• He has a deep affection for his old friend.他对老朋友感情很深。

7 halfway   

adj.中途的，不彻底的，部分的；adv.半路地，在中途，在半途

参考例句：

• We had got only halfway when it began to get dark.走到半路，天就黑了。
• In study the worst danger is give up halfway.在学习上，最忌讳的是有始无终。

8 catching   

adj.易传染的，有魅力的，迷人的，接住

参考例句：

• There are those who think eczema is catching.有人就是认为湿疹会传染。
• Enthusiasm is very catching.热情非常富有感染力。

9 brag   

v./n.吹牛，自夸；adj.第一流的

参考例句：

• He made brag of his skill.他夸耀自己技术高明。
• His wealth is his brag.他夸张他的财富。

10 gossip   

n.流言蜚语，爱说长道短的人；vi.传播流言

参考例句：

• She broadcast the gossip all over the town.她将这个流言传遍全镇。
• They spread a lot of tacky gossip about his love life.关于他的爱情生活，他们散播了许多不堪的闲言闲语。

11 nurtured   

养育( nurture的过去式和过去分词 )； 培育； 滋长； 助长

参考例句：

• She is looking fondly at the plants he had nurtured. 她深情地看着他培育的植物。
• Any latter-day Einstein would still be spotted and nurtured. 任何一个未来的爱因斯坦都会被发现并受到培养。

12 brim   

n.帽檐，（容器的）边，边缘；vi.注满，充溢

参考例句：

• The glass was full to the brim.玻璃杯中的液体已满到要溢出来了。
• She was filled to the brim with happiness.她充满了幸福。