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英语沙龙:Think of What You Have Instead of What You Want

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Think of What You Have Instead of What You Want

In over a dozen years as a stress consultant1),one of the most pervasive2) and destructive3) mental tendencies4) I've seen is that of focusing on what we want instead of what we have.It doesn't seem to make any difference how much we have;we just keep expanding our list of desires,which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied1.The mind-set that says“I'll be happy when this desire is fulfilled” is the same mind-set that will repeat itself once that desire is met.

A friend of ours closed escrow5) on his new home on a Sunday.The very next time we saw him he was talking about his next house that was going to be even bigger.He  isn't alone.Most of us do the very same thing.We want  this or that.If we don' t get what we want we keep thinking about all that we don't have--and we remain dissatisfied.If we do get what we want,we simply recreate the same thinking in our new circumstances.So,despite getting what we want,we still remain unhappy.Happiness can't be found when we are yearning2 for new desires6).

Luckily,there is a way to be happy.It involves changing the emphasis3 of our thinking from what we want  to what we have.Rather than wishing y our spouse4 was different,try thinking about her wonderful qualities.Instead of complaining about your salary,be grateful that you have a job.Rather than wishing you were able to take a vacation to Hawaii,think of how much fun you have had close to home.The list of possibilities is endless.Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different ” trap,back off and start over.Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful.When you focus not on what you want,but on what you have,you end up getting more of what you want anyway.If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse,she'll be more loving.If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it,you'll do a better job,be more productive,and probably end up getting a raise any way.If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home  rather than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii,you'll end up having more fun.If you ever do get to Hawaii,you'll be in the habit of enjoying yourself.And,if by some chance you don' t,you'll have a great life anyway.

Make a note to yourself to start thinking more about what you have than what you want.If you do,your life will start appearing much better than before.For perhaps the first time in your life,you'll know what it means to feel satisfied.

 by Richard Carlson
 

想想你所拥有的而非你所想得到的


在作压力咨询顾问这十几年期间,我所见到的最为普遍最具毁灭性的心理趋向,就是专注于我们想要得到的而非我们所拥有的。我们到底拥有多少似乎并不重要;我们只是一味地扩展我们的欲望单,而这就注定我们永远不会满足。“这一欲望得到满足后我就会幸福”---这种心态在该欲望真的满足后又会有。

我们的一位朋友于某个星期天履行完他新房子的契约。就在我们再次见到他时,他大谈他下一栋更大的房子。他这样的人并不罕见。我们大多数人做着类似的事情。我们要这要那,如果我们没有得到自己想要的,便不住地想我们没有的---于是我们就老是不满。可如果我们真地得到了自己想要的,又会在新的情况下抱同样的想法。于是,尽管我们得到了自己想要的,我们依然不快活。当我们不断渴求新的欲望时,幸福无法驻留我们的心间。

幸运的是,有一种办法能让我们幸福,这便是把我们考虑的重点从我们想要得到的转到我们所拥有的。与其希望你的配偶应该怎样怎样,不妨想想她可爱的品质。与其抱怨你的薪水,不妨感激你有一份工作。与其希望你能够去夏威夷度假,不妨想想你在家门口已找到了多少乐趣。这种可能性的单子是列不完的。每当你发现自己陷入“我多么希望生活是另一番景象”这一陷阱时,赶紧抽身重新想一想,吸一口气,记住你所拥有的,这样心里就会感激。你如果注重你所拥有的而非你想要得到的,你最终得到的比你想要的要多。如果你注重的是你配偶的良好品质,她会更加温柔体贴。如果你对你的工作心存感激而非一味抱怨,你会做得更好,更有成果,或许最终也会加薪。如果你琢磨的是如何在家门口玩得开心,而非等着去夏威夷玩儿,你最终会得到更多的乐趣。如果你真能去成夏威夷,那么你就已经很会玩儿个痛快了。即使由于某些原因你没能去成,你的生活依然是丰富多彩的。

记住要开始多想想自己拥有的而不是自己渴求的。如果你做到的话,你的生活就会显得比以往要美好得多。也许这是生平第一次,但你会领悟到心满意足的意义。
 


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1 dissatisfied ftcxP     
a.不满的
参考例句:
  • If you are dissatisfied with our service, please write to the manager. 对我们的服务如有不满,请函告经理。
  • There was a dissatisfied look in the magager's eyes. 经理的眼睛里露出不满的神色。
2 yearning hezzPJ     
a.渴望的;向往的;怀念的
参考例句:
  • a yearning for a quiet life 对宁静生活的向往
  • He felt a great yearning after his old job. 他对过去的工作有一种强烈的渴想。
3 emphasis bPPz0     
n.强调,重点,重要性
参考例句:
  • The emphasis has shifted markedly in recent years.最近几年重点已经明显改变了。
  • Particular emphasis will be placed on oral language training.将会特别强调口语训练。
4 spouse Ah6yK     
n.配偶(指夫或妻)
参考例句:
  • Her spouse will come to see her on Sunday.她的丈夫星期天要来看她。
  • What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?在婚姻中保持配偶幸福的最好方法是什么?
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