爱自己:说给自己微情话

　　完美主义并不一定能成事。成功不在于你准备的多好，而是你尝试过多少，失败过多少，从中获得了多少。

　　When you are first learning or perfecting a skill, whether it be baking, archery, or public speaking, it is easy to get stuck in the cycle of analysis paralysis¹. You want to learn as much as you possibly can before you actually do the task, but you end up wasting time preparing yourself instead of just trying to do it.

　　Major League Baseball pitchers² don't throw a perfect game every time they play, so why do you expect to be perfect all the time?

　　Jonathan Fields recently wrote an excellent piece on how the key to getting better at something is to make more bad stuff.

　　That is a powerful message. In a world filled with perfectionists who don't want to share what they've created with anyone unless they think it is perfect, the best way to get better is actually with hands-on practice. And the best way to practice is by trying over and over again until you stop failing miserably³.

　　Jonathan uses the example of building a guitar, but wanting the first one to be perfect.

　　'Go and make a really bad guitar.' Stop waiting around, go buy a kit⁴ and do it. Today.

　　The first one...will be bad. Maybe really bad. But you'll learn more making one bad guitar than you will waiting to do something and then taking a course that teaches you how to do it right. You'll understand a lot more about the "why" behind good and bad building, and that'll put you in a radically⁵ different position to do it better moving forward.

　　- Jonathan Fields

　　There Are No Shortcuts⁶

　　When we asked whether or not there are shortcuts to becoming an expert, many of the responses revolved⁷ around a single theme:

　　The quickest path to expertise⁸ is to take direct action, get a lot of experience, and work your ass⁹ off.

　　There may be some mental or physical tricks that you can use to save a little bit of time, but major shortcuts just don’t exist to becoming an expert.

　　There's a lot of emphasis on trying to accelerate the path to success by spending a ton of time studying the methods of those have succeeded before us in the hope that we’ll be able to avoid many of the mistakes they made.

　　- Jonathan Fields

　　There is no system to game, way to cheat, or 30 steps to success that you can use to become the best at something. Practice and focus are the key.

　　Yes, you should learn necessary things such as the safety procedures before you do something dangerous like rock climbing or strenuous¹⁰ like running a marathon, but just get out there. Go for a climb. Go for a run.

　　Learn from what you did, not what you read.

　　End the Analysis Paralysis

　　By spending too much time with your nose in a book, reading how-to articles online, or watching video tutorials you will hurt the speed of your learning by not putting yourself out there, trying to do great work, failing, and then getting better.

　　So, learn, what you can, but at the same time, get your head out of the classroom and start making more bad stuff.

　　- Jonathan Fields

　　Don't worry about how bad you do the first time. You learned to walk as a child by continually falling on your face trying to take your first steps. Life is the same way.

　　Be so determined¹¹ that no matter what happens the first time you try to do something you will try again. Keep yourself from focusing too much on the failure. Decide at the start that you just need to reach completion once in whatever way you can. Then do it again, and again, until you are satisfied with the results.

　　There's no greater accelerant along the path to genius than a flaming trail of crap.

　　- Jonathan Fields

　　What is one thing you have been putting off doing for far too long?

　　Is there something you are too afraid to start working towards because you don't want to fail?

1 paralysis   

n.麻痹(症)；瘫痪(症)

参考例句：

• The paralysis affects his right leg and he can only walk with difficulty.他右腿瘫痪步履维艰。
• The paralysis affects his right leg and he can only walk with difficulty.他右腿瘫痪步履维艰。

2 pitchers   

大水罐( pitcher的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Over the next five years, he became one of the greatest pitchers in baseball. 在接下来的5年时间里，他成为了最了不起的棒球投手之一。
• Why he probably won't: Pitchers on also-rans can win the award. 为什麽不是他得奖：投手在失败的球队可以赢得赛扬奖。

3 miserably   

adv.痛苦地；悲惨地；糟糕地；极度地

参考例句：

• The little girl was wailing miserably. 那小女孩难过得号啕大哭。
• It was drizzling, and miserably cold and damp. 外面下着毛毛细雨，天气又冷又湿，令人难受。 来自《简明英汉词典》

4 kit   

n.用具包，成套工具；随身携带物

参考例句：

• The kit consisted of about twenty cosmetic items.整套工具包括大约20种化妆用品。
• The captain wants to inspect your kit.船长想检查你的行装。

5 radically   

ad.根本地，本质地

参考例句：

• I think we may have to rethink our policies fairly radically. 我认为我们可能要对我们的政策进行根本的反思。
• The health service must be radically reformed. 公共医疗卫生服务必须进行彻底改革。

6 shortcuts   

n.捷径( shortcut的名词复数 )；近路；快捷办法；被切短的东西（尤指烟草）

参考例句：

• In other words, experts want shortcuts to everything. 换句话说，专家需要所有的快捷方式。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓
• Offer shortcuts from the Help menu. 在帮助菜单中提供快捷方式。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓

7 revolved   

v.（使）旋转( revolve的过去式和过去分词 )；细想

参考例句：

• The fan revolved slowly. 电扇缓慢地转动着。
• The wheel revolved on its centre. 轮子绕中心转动。 来自《简明英汉词典》

8 expertise   

n.专门知识(或技能等)，专长

参考例句：

• We were amazed at his expertise on the ski slopes.他斜坡滑雪的技能使我们赞叹不已。
• You really have the technical expertise in a new breakthrough.让你真正在专业技术上有一个全新的突破。

9 ass   

n.驴；傻瓜，蠢笨的人

参考例句：

• He is not an ass as they make him.他不象大家猜想的那样笨。
• An ass endures his burden but not more than his burden.驴能负重但不能超过它能力所负担的。

10 strenuous   

adj.奋发的，使劲的；紧张的；热烈的，狂热的

参考例句：

• He made strenuous efforts to improve his reading. 他奋发努力提高阅读能力。
• You may run yourself down in this strenuous week.你可能会在这紧张的一周透支掉自己。

11 determined   

adj.坚定的；有决心的

参考例句：

• I have determined on going to Tibet after graduation.我已决定毕业后去西藏。
• He determined to view the rooms behind the office.他决定查看一下办公室后面的房间。