英语美文朋友篇：一生中应该有的八种类型朋友

 　　Did you know that people without friends are more likely to die an early death?

　　你知道吗?没有朋友的人往往死的早。

　　It’s true. Just ask science.

　　这是真的。不信，可以向科学求证。

　　To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch of fair-weather buddies¹ won’t do the trick. You need a diverse, well-rounded entourage that will stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away.

　　要想生活得长久幸福，一群不能共患难的朋友是不能助你达成目的的。你需要的是一群性格各异、面面俱到，可以与你同甘苦共患难的朋友。接下来要说的八种类型的朋友正是这一类。

　　1. A Loyal Best Friend

　　1.一个忠实的最好的朋友

　　Sometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane². Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what. This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same.

　　有时一个忠实的最好的朋友可以是使你保持清醒的唯一原因。每个人都需要一个无论在任何情况下都无私支持自己的朋友。这样的朋友可以放任你的一团糟，也知道你所有的最深处和最黑暗的秘密，但仍然一直爱着你。

　　2. A Fearless Adventurer

　　2.一个无所畏惧的冒险者

　　We live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous³ friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.

　　我们生活在一个宏大的世界里，可以看许多风景，遇到各色人，拥有丰富多彩的经历。然而，我们大部分人都深陷在自己的琐事里，忘记如何好好地生活。我们都需要一个冒险的朋友，将自己从壳里拖出来并向我们介绍新想法、文化、哲学和活动。

　　3. A Brutally⁴ Honest Confidant

　　3.一个极其诚实的知己

　　There’s certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh truth. That’s what the brutally honest confidant is for. If you’re in a rocky relationship and everyone’s telling you that it’s perfectly⁵ normal that you’re back with that special someone for the 8th time in the last 2 years, the brutally honest confidant is there to yank your rose-colored glasses off and tell you, “Enough. Stop with all that break-up-and-get-back-together drama. You deserve better.” Friends are supposed to be honest with each other. If you find someone who is brutally honest with you (in a constructive⁶ way), then hold on to this person! People like that are hard to come by these days.

　　在生活中，有些特定的场合，我们需要知道残酷的真相。这时我们正需要这样一个极其诚实的知己。在一段摇摆不定的恋爱关系中，每个人都对你说情人间难免有摩擦，你应该再次回到那个人身边，而这已是过去两年里第八次出现。此时那个极其诚实的知己则会摘掉你乐观的眼镜，对你说，“够了!不要再上演那种分分合合的戏码了。你值得更好的人”。朋友之间应该相互坦诚。如果你发现某个人对你极其诚实，那么就紧紧抓住这个人。在这个时代，像这样的人已不多了。

　　4. A Wise Mentor⁷

　　4.一位睿智的导师

　　Jesse Jackson once said, “Never look down on someone unless you’re helping⁸ them up.” If you have someone smart, inspiring, and admirable in your life who practices this philosophy, you’re extremely lucky. We all need a friend who inspires us to be better people without making us feel inadequate⁹. Plus, being around such a person will challenge us to better ourselves every day.

　　杰西杰克逊曾说，“永远不要看轻别人,除非他需要你的帮助”。如果你的一生中有这样聪慧、令人激励和敬佩的人在实践这种哲学，那你就非常幸运。我们都需要一个激励自己变得更好而不是变得自卑的朋友。而且，在这样一个人身边将会促使我们不断提高，天天向上。

　　The wise mentor in your life doesn’t have to be someone who shares the same occupation or hobbies with you. It’s simply someone who’s a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in the right direction. It can be anyone — a colleague, a friend who’s beyond their years, or an older neighbor — as long as you look up to this person and want to be more like them.

　　在你的生命中，一位睿智的导师不一定要是某个职位与你相同的或是拥有共同爱好的人。仅仅是某个生活阅历比你多点，拥有足够智慧和能力，可以指引你走向正确方向的人。他可以是任何人—— 一位同事、一个阅历丰富的朋友或是一位年老的邻居，只要你敬仰并且想要成为甚至超越他们。

　　5. A Friend From a Different Culture

　　5.来自不同文化的朋友

　　The last thing you want to be described as is someone who’s stuck in their own ways. If everyone had a friend from a different culture, the world would be a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own culture. Sometimes you might even adopt new ways to do things.

　　你最不想被别人描述成固执己见的人。如果每个人都有一位来自不同文化的朋友，世界将会变得更美好。一段跨文化的友谊可以使你体验与自己文化迥然不同的习俗、价值观和传统。有时，你甚至可能采用新的方式做事。

　　Be careful; don’t befriend someone just because they’re from a different culture. No one likes to be a token friend. Instead, keep your mind open, and if you come across someone you click with who just so happens to be from a different culture, make the effort to learn about their customs, values, and traditions while getting to know the person on a personal level.

　　注意，不要就因为某人来自不同文化就与其成为朋友。没人喜欢成为象征性的朋友。相反，你要敞开心胸。如果你在网上遇到某个人恰巧来自不同文化，要努力去了解他们的习俗、价值观念和传统，同时从个人的层面去了解这个人。

　　6. A Polar Opposite

　　6.一个完全对立的朋友

　　We humans are hard-wired to get together in groups and attack outsiders — the human pack mentality¹⁰, if you will. If you only develop friendships with others who follow the same beliefs, customs, and values as you do, chances are you’re somewhat detached from the rest of the world, and you’re more likely to perpetuate¹¹ stereotypes¹² on anyone who holds a different world view from you.

　　我们人类天生的会聚集在一起组成组，对付外来者-----即人类团体性思维，如果你想知道的话。要是只跟与你有相同信仰、习俗和价值观念的人做朋友，你将可能与其余的世界相脱离，更加可能给与你持不同世界观的人留下刻板的印象。

　　Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.

　　除了不断地使志同道合的人围绕在身边，你应该试着打破这种安逸，同观点与你对立的人做朋友。他们可以帮助你拓展不同世界观的视野，而你也将学会接受以一种完全迥异于你的方式看待世界的人。

　　7. A Friendly Neighbor

　　7.一位友好的邻居

　　These days, a lot of people don’t know their own neighbors. It’s a shame, because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you’re on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door, you can call up your trusty ol’ neighbor and ask them to head over to your house and lock it for you. Nice dependable neighbors who have each other’s backs are a dying breed, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t introduce yourself to the new neighbors across the street!

　　这些年，很多人不了解自己的邻居。这真是羞愧。因为一些邻居可以成为最友好和最热心的人。要是你正在度假，突然意识到自己忘记锁大门了，你可以打电话给信任的邻居，让他们前去你家，帮你锁好大门。拥有友好并相互照应的邻居是千金难买，但那并不意味着你不应该向街对面的新邻居介绍你自己。

　　8. A Work Pal¹³

　　8.一位工作伙伴

　　Did you know that with a full-time¹⁴ job, you spend at least 50% of your waking hours at work? Not only that, but you spend some more time commuting¹⁵ to work, thinking about work, working overtime¹⁶, and furthering your career on your personal time. Depressing, isn’t it?

　　你知道吗?在拥有一份全职工作后，你至少花费了50%的醒着的时间在工作上。不仅仅是那样，你还要多花费些时间在通勤、思考工作、加班，并且在个人时间拓展事业。真令人沮丧，是不是?

　　Statistics show that the more isolated¹⁷ you are at work, the more depressed¹⁸ you get. That’s why it makes sense to get a work pal to chat with at the water cooler and to help you get through the week. You spend 50% of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal. You’ll find it much easier to shoot the breeze and complain about work with someone who can relate to you than eating lunch alone every day.

　　数据表明，在工作上越孤立，你就变得越抑郁。这就是为什么需要一个可以在饮水机旁聊天并且助你度过一周的工作伙伴。你花50%醒着的时间在工作上，你的工作伙伴也一样。与每天独自吃午饭相比，你会发现与合得来的人闲聊或是抱怨工作是更容易的事。

　　Your work pal doesn’t have to be your best friend outside of work. They just need to be someone you click with on some level, and if you two hit it off exceptionally well, you can always start hanging out with them outside of the office.

　　你的工作伙伴不一定要是你工作之外的最好的朋友。他们只需要是你在某种层面上喜欢的人即可。如果你俩一拍即合特别好，那么在办公室之外你总是可以和他们出去逛。

　　With a loyal best friend, a fearless adventurer, a brutally honest confidant, a wise mentor, a friend from a different culture, a polar opposite, a friendly neighbor, and a work pal in your life, you’re bound to live a long and happy life!

　　一生中，有一个忠实的最好的朋友、一个无所畏惧的冒险者、一位极其诚实的知己、一位睿智的导师、一个来自不同文化的朋友、一个完全对立的朋友、一个友好的邻居以及一个工作伙伴，你必将活得长久而快乐。

1 buddies   

n.密友( buddy的名词复数 )；同伴；弟兄；（用于称呼男子，常带怒气）家伙v.（如密友、战友、伙伴、弟兄般）交往( buddy的第三人称单数 )；做朋友；亲近（…）；伴护艾滋病人

参考例句：

• We became great buddies. 我们成了非常好的朋友。 来自辞典例句
• The two of them have become great buddies. 他们俩成了要好的朋友。 来自辞典例句

2 sane   

adj.心智健全的，神志清醒的，明智的，稳健的

参考例句：

• He was sane at the time of the murder.在凶杀案发生时他的神志是清醒的。
• He is a very sane person.他是一个很有头脑的人。

3 adventurous   

adj.爱冒险的；惊心动魄的，惊险的，刺激的　

参考例句：

• I was filled with envy at their adventurous lifestyle.我很羨慕他们敢于冒险的生活方式。
• He was predestined to lead an adventurous life.他注定要过冒险的生活。

4 brutally   

adv.残忍地，野蛮地，冷酷无情地

参考例句：

• The uprising was brutally put down.起义被残酷地镇压下去了。
• A pro-democracy uprising was brutally suppressed.一场争取民主的起义被残酷镇压了。

5 perfectly   

adv.完美地，无可非议地，彻底地

参考例句：

• The witnesses were each perfectly certain of what they said.证人们个个对自己所说的话十分肯定。
• Everything that we're doing is all perfectly above board.我们做的每件事情都是光明正大的。

6 constructive   

adj.建设的，建设性的

参考例句：

• We welcome constructive criticism.我们乐意接受有建设性的批评。
• He is beginning to deal with his anger in a constructive way.他开始用建设性的方法处理自己的怒气。

7 mentor   

n.指导者，良师益友；v.指导

参考例句：

• He fed on the great ideas of his mentor.他以他导师的伟大思想为支撑。
• He had mentored scores of younger doctors.他指导过许多更年轻的医生。

8 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。

9 inadequate   

adj.(for,to)不充足的，不适当的

参考例句：

• The supply is inadequate to meet the demand.供不应求。
• She was inadequate to the demands that were made on her.她还无力满足对她提出的各项要求。

10 mentality   

n.心理，思想，脑力

参考例句：

• He has many years'experience of the criminal mentality.他研究犯罪心理有多年经验。
• Running a business requires a very different mentality from being a salaried employee.经营企业所要求具备的心态和上班族的心态截然不同。

11 perpetuate   

v.使永存，使永记不忘

参考例句：

• This monument was built to perpetuate the memory of the national hero.这个纪念碑建造的意义在于纪念民族英雄永垂不朽。
• We must perpetuate the system.我们必须将此制度永久保持。

12 stereotypes   

n.老套，模式化的见解，有老一套固定想法的人( stereotype的名词复数 )v.把…模式化，使成陈规( stereotype的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• Such jokes tend to reinforce racial stereotypes. 这样的笑话容易渲染种族偏见。
• It makes me sick to read over such stereotypes devoid of content. 这种空洞无物的八股调，我看了就讨厌。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》

13 pal   

n.朋友，伙伴，同志；vi.结为友

参考例句：

• He is a pal of mine.他是我的一个朋友。
• Listen,pal,I don't want you talking to my sister any more.听着，小子，我不让你再和我妹妹说话了。

14 full-time   

adj.满工作日的或工作周的，全时间的

参考例句：

• A full-time job may be too much for her.全天工作她恐怕吃不消。
• I don't know how she copes with looking after her family and doing a full-time job.既要照顾家庭又要全天工作，我不知道她是如何对付的。

15 commuting   

交换（的）

参考例句：

• I used the commuting time to read and answer my mail. 我利用上下班在汽车中的时间来阅读和答复给我的函电。
• Noncommuting objects are as real to the mathematicians as commuting objects. 对于数学家来说，不可交换的对象与可交换的对象是一样真实的。

16 overtime   

adj.超时的，加班的；adv.加班地

参考例句：

• They are working overtime to finish the work.为了完成任务他们正在加班加点地工作。
• He was paid for the overtime he worked.他领到了加班费。

17 isolated   

adj.与世隔绝的

参考例句：

• His bad behaviour was just an isolated incident. 他的不良行为只是个别事件。
• Patients with the disease should be isolated. 这种病的患者应予以隔离。

18 depressed   

adj.沮丧的，抑郁的，不景气的，萧条的

参考例句：

• When he was depressed,he felt utterly divorced from reality.他心情沮丧时就感到完全脱离了现实。
• His mother was depressed by the sad news.这个坏消息使他的母亲意志消沉。