培养自我成长心态的5种方法

 　　Think about a self-improvement goal you have, like becoming a better public speaker, earning a promotion¹ at work, or losing weight. Be honest: What’s been stopping you from achieving, or even making progress, toward your goal?

　　想一个你已经有的自我提高的目标，像是成为一个较好的公共演说家，在工作上获得一个竞升的机会或者是减肥。诚实些：是什么阻止你实现这些，或者是朝着你的目标取得进步？

　　Do excuses like these sound familiar? I’m a naturally shy person — speaking in front of people makes me nervous. I’m not a good writer, so I’ll never get promoted. I’m not an athletic² person — losing weight is impossible!

　　这些借口是不是都比较熟悉？ 我本来就是个害羞的人--在别人面前说话就会很紧张。我不是一个好的作家，所以我从来不没有获得晋升。我又不是运动员--减肥是不可能的。

　　1.Get expert help.

　　获得专家的帮助

　　Can’t even run around the block? Find a running coach experienced with beginners and have her create a training plan for you. You’ll be amazed at how far you’re running in just a couple weeks. Hopeless in the kitchen? Take a cooking class, and learn to make two new dishes. With expert guidance, accountability, and social support, you’ll soon have the confidence to step out of your comfort zone. Once you get a taste of accomplishment³, you’ll be ready for the next challenge.

　　不能绕着建筑物跑？那就找一个训练新手有经验的跑步教练，和她一起为你制定一个跑步计划。你会这几周跑的惊讶。没有希望走进厨房？那就参加一个厨艺班，学做两道新菜色。有了专家的指导，责任人，社会支持，你会对走出你的舒适区有信心。一旦你尝到了成就感的滋味，你会为了下一次的挑战做好准备。

　　2.Look around you.

　　调查你自己

　　Maybe a friend set out to learn Spanish and became fluent. If you instinctively⁴ think, “She’s obviously good with languages,” reframe your thinking. Are you really going to take that accomplishment away from your friend? More likely, she studied hard and practiced often.

　　也许一个朋友打算学习西班牙语，学得流利。如果你本能认为，“她很明显的喜欢这个语言”，那就转换下你的想法。你真的准备让你的朋友远离那种成就。更可能的是，他努力学习，经常在练习。

　　3.Praise for effort, not skill.

　　表扬自己的努力，而非你的技能

　　When you get in the habit of recognizing effort in others, you’ll start to change the way you think about your own abilities. Instead of telling a friend, “You’re such a good cook!” Acknowledging⁵ effort over talent is a subtle⁶ but important change to make when working to adopt a growth mindset.

　　当你养成了意识到别人努力的习惯，你就会开始改变对自己能力的思考方式。而不是告诉朋友，“你真是一个好的厨师！”认同努力而非才干是很巧妙的，但是当努力去培养一个成长的心态是重要的改变。

　　4.Compete with yourself.

　　和你自己竞争

　　Yes, caring how we rank is human nature, but caring too much is counterproductive and fuels a fixed⁷ mindset. We all have our strengths. What’s important is not how you compare to others but how you compare to where you were yesterday, last week, or last year. Are you moving forward and making progress in the areas that you care about? If so, that’s all that matters.

　　当然，在意我们的排名是作为人类的本性，但是在意得太多事不利于生产的，给一颗坚定的心提供能量。我们都有自己的优点。重要的不是你怎样和别人竞争而是怎样和昨天，上周，或是去年的自己竞争。在这一方面你是否你已经在意的前进，取得进步？如果是，那就是这样。

　　5.Learn from failure.

　　从失败中学习

　　When you have a fixed mindset, the voice in your head says, I didn’t make the sale because I’m terrible at closing. Challenge this mindset. What could you have done differently to change the outcome⁸? If you think about it hard enough, you’ll probably come up with lessons to apply to your next sales opportunity.

　　当你有一颗坚定的心时，你心里的声音就会说没有做成是因为我在害怕。那就要挑战这种心态。你做过哪些不同的事情来改变这种结果？如果你认为这很难，你可能会获得一些经验，然后运用到下一次这样的情况中。

 

1 promotion   

n.提升，晋级；促销，宣传

参考例句：

• The teacher conferred with the principal about Dick's promotion.教师与校长商谈了迪克的升级问题。
• The clerk was given a promotion and an increase in salary.那个职员升了级，加了薪。

2 athletic   

adj.擅长运动的，强健的；活跃的，体格健壮的

参考例句：

• This area has been marked off for athletic practice.这块地方被划出来供体育训练之用。
• He is an athletic star.他是一个运动明星。

3 accomplishment   

n.完成，成就，（pl.）造诣，技能

参考例句：

• The series of paintings is quite an accomplishment.这一系列的绘画真是了不起的成就。
• Money will be crucial to the accomplishment of our objectives.要实现我们的目标，钱是至关重要的。

4 instinctively   

adv.本能地

参考例句：

• As he leaned towards her she instinctively recoiled. 他向她靠近，她本能地往后缩。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• He knew instinctively where he would find her. 他本能地知道在哪儿能找到她。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 acknowledging   

v.承认( acknowledge的现在分词 )；鸣谢；对…打招呼；告知已收到

参考例句：

• That would be acknowledging the Railroad's ownership right away-forfeiting their rights for good. 这一来不是就等于干脆承认铁路公司的所有权-永久放弃他们自己的主权吗？ 来自辞典例句
• It is a great relief to allow us ourselves the luxury of acknowledging our human frailties. 让我们自己享受承认人类的弱点的快乐是一大慰藉。 来自辞典例句

6 subtle   

adj.难于觉察或描述的，精巧的

参考例句：

• Her whole attitude had undergone a subtle change.她的整个态度发生了微妙的变化。
• There's a subtle hint of garlic in the sauce.调味汁里稍微有一点蒜味。

7 fixed   

adj.固定的，不变的，准备好的；(计算机)固定的

参考例句：

• Have you two fixed on a date for the wedding yet?你们俩选定婚期了吗？
• Once the aim is fixed,we should not change it arbitrarily.目标一旦确定，我们就不应该随意改变。

8 outcome   

n.结果，出口，演变

参考例句：

• The outcome of the experiment is in the lap of the gods.实验结果尚难预料。
• The outcome of the war is hard to foretell.战争胜负难以预卜。