如何与难相处的人打交道

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Dr. Manny Alvarez: Who doesn’t have a difficult colleague, friend, or family member? The bad news, often times, you’re forced to interact with these people on a daily basis and they could have a personality disorder¹. But the good news is there are simple ways you can learn to deal with their behaviors.

　　Dr. Andrew Twardon: A person with a paranoid personality is someone who is very much preoccupied² with loyalty³ of other people, uh, it is a person who constantly scans the environment and other people, looking for possible indications or signs of some sort of deception⁴.

　　Dr. Alvarez: The solution Dr. Twardon suggests, stick to conversation topics that are safe, and not too personal. Avoid any signs of criticisms or attack, and refrain from using language that is patronizing or condescending⁵.

　　Dr. Twardon: A narcissistic⁶ person really believes that she is better than you. And because I am better than you, I am entitled to expect that you do the things for me. I am entitled to be focused exclusively on my own needs and kind of disregard yours.

　　Dr. Alvarez: So how do you deal with those ego-maniacs? Don’t be defensive⁷ with this person; it could trigger a fight, and try to make yourself an important part of his or her world in order to keep up the relationship.

　　Dr. Twardon: That is essentially⁸ a person who is dealing⁹ with a lot of internal…call it insecurity, or internal anxiety, and internal conflicts. And the way of resolving internal conflicts is by organizing the external environment.

　　Dr. Alvarez: Dr. Twardon is talking about Obsessive¹⁰ Compulsive Disorder, which can make others jumpy. Try acknowledging their hard work with compliments, compromise with them when possible, and also avoid conflict. And Dr. Twardon reminds us we all have a little bit of these personalities¹¹ in ourselves, so treat others as you would like to be treated.