You and Your Coworker: When You Disagree… Negotiate(在线收听

You and Your Coworker: When You Disagree…  Negotiate

 

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Negotiate with the right person. Nothing is more frustrating than approaching an individual to help you solve a problem, only to discover that he can’t. Figure out who can help you meet your needs, and then decide how best to approach that individual.

 

Ask questions. In the course of a typical negotiation, your coworker will say things you disagree with. He might even make an ultimatum or two. Don’t respond in kind. Probe his position by asking open-ended questions and posing hypothetical scenarios. You’ll likely discover additional negotiating room as a result.

 

Let the other person make the first offer. Whenever possible, let the other person suggest an offer, a solution or a resolution before you suggest anything. The individual who makes the first offer in a negotiation often sets the baseline for further discussion. They also lose some strategic advantage once the discussion begins.

 

Know your strengths but don’t let on. Don’t let your coworker know fully what you can offer in the negotiation until the discussion progresses further. Save your best negotiating points and concessions for later.

 

Don’t be afraid to give in, but do it point by point. A good rule of thumb: make a concession only when your coworker makes a concession.

 

Think of negotiating as selling. Imagine you’re a salesperson who must convince your customer of the merits of your product. A “sales mindset” will help you maintain a positive and persuasive attitude.

 

Note the other’s objections. When you hear an objection to your argument, let your coworker know how the objection can be overcome.

 

Vocabulary Focus

in kind (idiom) in the same way

let on (idiom) to reveal or make something known that was previously unknown

Specialized Terms

ultimatum (n) 最后通牒 a demand that a person or group do something to avoid something unpleasant

baseline (n) 底线 an imaginary line used as a starting point for making comparisons

concession (n) 让步,退让 something that is allowed or given up, often in order to end a disagreement, or the act of allowing or giving this

 

解决分歧的最佳途径——协商

 

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找对人来进行协商。没有比发现找来帮忙解决问题的人根本帮不上忙,更叫人气馁的了。先想清楚真正能满足你需要的人是谁,然后决定如何以最恰当的方式来和他接触。

提出问题。在典型的协商过程中,你的同事会说些你不同意的话。他甚至会提出一两项最后通牒。千万别以同样的方式回应。可以借着询问一些开放式的问题,提出假设性的状况,来探究他的立场。你很可能会从中发现更大的协商空间。

让对方先提议。尽可能在你提议任何事之前,让对方先提出意见、解决方法或决议。在协商中先提议的一方通常为之后的讨论设下底线。一旦讨论开始,他们也失去一些策略上的优势。

明白自己的实力但不对外透露。别让你的同事清楚知道在协商中你所能提供的条件,而要随着讨论慢慢来。将最有利的谈判筹码和退让留到最后。

不要怕让步,但要一步步来。经验法则:只有在对方退让时你才退让。

将协商视为销售行为。想象自己是个必须说服客户相信产品优点的推销员。抱持一种“推销的心态”,会帮助你保持积极并具说服力的态度。

留意别人的反对意见。在争论中听到有异议时,要让你同事知道能如何来克服分歧。

 

 

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