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西部落:美满婚姻的真谛

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When couples get married, they often promise to love, honor and cherish each other. Too often, those traditional wedding vows1 turn out to be nothing but empty promises. Psychologist Doc. Robin2 Smith who often appears on Oprah says it doesn't have to be that way. Her new book "Lies at the Altar" offers advice on building a happy and healthy marriage.

Dr. Robin, good morning!

Good morning!

So great to have you here!

I'm happy to be here, Julie.

Ok. You didn't necessarily write this for couples who are married or people're thinking of getting married. It's written for everyone, (Absolutely) right?

Yeah. It's because what the book is really about, Lies at the ALTAR is talking about living more in truth than in lies. Lies about what? About who we are, and so when you don't know who you are, it's hard to create, it's actually impossible to create, to carve and to build the life and relationship of our dreams.

When you say lies at the altar, these are not intentional3 lies. (yes) It's not like the bride and the groom4 were saying, yeah, I'm gonna love / and cherish you, but I'm really not, hahaha. (no) It's, it's you think you are, but you don't know who you are yet?

You don't know who you are and often unfortunately because of the models that we've had in our families also on television. There hasn't been anyone who has given us permission, who has shown us the way, the path into living more in the truth, so we're afraid to let someone know who we are. Because maybe they won't love us, maybe they won't choose us, maybe they'll decide, you know, that's not the person that I wanna spend my life with. What we don't know is that if I live with that kinda fear, and I live covering up who I really am, I am cheating myself and minimizing the possibility of really having a good, strong marriage. I mean, my message is pro-marriage but it's about being married and being smart.

Do you feel that many people, men and women, not only cover up who they really are to their significant other but to themselves?

Absolutely, I mean, I think it starts actually with the cover-up to yourself being an impostor, and again not because we are bad, not because we are liars5, not because we are conniving6, but because we are afraid, we are afraid of knowing really who we really are, because we think we are gonna lose out when choices and opportunities not knowing that how we really lose out is by being the impostor, that is the cheater, the thief and the robber.

So how do we confront who we really are, whether it's a conversation with, you know, myself, looking at myself in the mirror, good and bad.

Absolutely. Well, there're several things, one, I always ask people tell me something great about yourself, and then tell me what some of your limitations are. People can often come up with something good, but it's hard for people to be clear about where their limitations are. You know,you, they can talk about they are great wife in this way and great husband in that way, but tell me where you're falling short, and the falling short part is critical because then I have a place to, to know where do I need to do the new work. So I came in the book and I talked about showing up as a grown-up, part of being mature, and grown-up isn't age, it's about knowing who I am, what works for me, what doesn't, what my values are. Those types of things are critical to really know a: first about me, and then about the person / I wanna spend the rest of my life with.

You have, what, like 276 questions in here(Absolutely) for someone to ask themselves. And then,(first) first and then you're hopeful potential future mate. (Absolutely) Answering these questions honestly can really help you figure out if the two of you should be together.

Absolutely, and then we wanna be aware if you haven't gotten married yet, it's great, because you can go on this and use it like as an, you know, an exploring mission where I get to know me, I get to know you, and not to be afraid of the truth, 'cause we are again, we are scared because we haven't really learned that the truth will make us free. It's the only foundation to a good, strong life and marriage. But for couples who are married who are thinking, Ok, wait a minute, let me put the seat belt on, coz' now I'm scared. I'm 20 years in a marriage. I have kids and I don't know if I wanna ask myself this. (Right) Where it is really useful for married couples is that they can track, oh, that's where we've been stuck, we don't have to throw marriages out, there're too many people getting divorced who actually have marriages that can work and be saved, but they don't have the tools and "Lies at the ALTAR" it's gonna... (It's a tool), it's a tool, (It is a tool) I mean this is, it's a tool to really empower your life and then your marriage.

It's a great book. Now I know why, it's No.1 in its category(Thank you) on the New York Times.


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1 vows c151b5e18ba22514580d36a5dcb013e5     
誓言( vow的名词复数 ); 郑重宣布,许愿
参考例句:
  • Matrimonial vows are to show the faithfulness of the new couple. 婚誓体现了新婚夫妇对婚姻的忠诚。
  • The nun took strait vows. 那位修女立下严格的誓愿。
2 robin Oj7zme     
n.知更鸟,红襟鸟
参考例句:
  • The robin is the messenger of spring.知更鸟是报春的使者。
  • We knew spring was coming as we had seen a robin.我们看见了一只知更鸟,知道春天要到了。
3 intentional 65Axb     
adj.故意的,有意(识)的
参考例句:
  • Let me assure you that it was not intentional.我向你保证那不是故意的。
  • His insult was intentional.他的侮辱是有意的。
4 groom 0fHxW     
vt.给(马、狗等)梳毛,照料,使...整洁
参考例句:
  • His father was a groom.他父亲曾是个马夫。
  • George was already being groomed for the top job.为承担这份高级工作,乔治已在接受专门的培训。
5 liars ba6a2311efe2dc9a6d844c9711cd0fff     
说谎者( liar的名词复数 )
参考例句:
  • The greatest liars talk most of themselves. 最爱自吹自擂的人是最大的说谎者。
  • Honest boys despise lies and liars. 诚实的孩子鄙视谎言和说谎者。
6 conniving 659ad90919ad6a36ff5f496205aa1c65     
v.密谋 ( connive的现在分词 );搞阴谋;默许;纵容
参考例句:
  • She knew that if she said nothing she would be conniving in an injustice. 她知道她如果什么也不说就是在纵容不公正的行为。
  • The general is accused of conniving in a plot to topple the government. 将军被指控纵容一个颠覆政府的阴谋。 来自《简明英汉词典》
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