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11-14 如何克服你的羞怯感

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How to Overcome Your Shyness

 

Shyness is the cause of much unhappiness for a great many of people. All kinds of people describe themselves as shy. Shy people are anxious and self-conscious; that is that they are excessively concerned with their own appearance and actions. Worrisome1 thoughts are constantly swirling1 in their minds. What kind of impression am I making? Do they like me? Do I sound stupid? I’m ugly. I’m wearing unattractive clothes. It’s obvious that such uncomfortable feelings must affect people adversely22. A person’s self-concept is reflected in the way he or she behaves, and the way a person behaves affects other people’s reactions.

 

Shy people, having low self esteem3, are likely to be passive and easily influenced by others. They need reassurance43 that they are doing “the right thing”. Shy people are very sensitive to criticism. They feel it confirms their inferiority4. They also find it difficult to be pleased by compliments because they believe they are unworthy of praise. A shy person may respond to a compliment with a statement like this one: “Your are just saying that to make me feel good. I know it’s not true.” It’s clear that, while self-awareness is a healthy quality, overdoing5 it is detrimental65, or harmful. Then, can shyness be completely eliminated, or at least reduced?

 

Yes!Here are some specific helpful steps toward building self-confidence and overcoming shyness.

 

1. Recognize your personal strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has both. As self-acceptance grows, shyness naturally diminishes.

 

2. Set reasonable goals. For example, you may be timid6 about being with a group of strangers at a party. Don’t feel that you must converse7 with everyone. Concentrate on talking with one or two people. You’ll feel more comfortable.

 

3. Guilt8 and shame are destructive feelings. Don’t waste time and energy on them. Suppose, you have hurt someone’s feelings. Feeling ashamed accomplishes nothing. Instead, accept the fact that you have made a mistake, and make up your mind to be more sensitive in the future.

 

4. There are numerous approaches to all issues. Few options are completely right or wrong. Don’t be afraid to speak up and give your point of view.

 

5. Don’t make negative comments about yourself. This is a form of self-rejection. Avoid describing yourself as stupid, ugly, a failure. Accent7 the positive.

 

6. Accept criticism thoughtfully. Do not interpret it as a personal attack. If, for example, a friend complains about your cooking, accept it as a comment on your cooking, not yourself. Be assured that you are still good friends, but perhaps your cooking could improve.

 

7. Remember that everyone experiences some failures and disappointments. Profit from them as learning experiences. Very often a disappointment becomes a turning point for a wonderful experience to come along. For instance, you may be rejected by the college of your choice. However, at the college you actually attend, you may find a quality of education beyond what you had expected.

 

8. Do not associate with people who make you feel inadequate9. Try to change their attitude or yours, or remove yourself from that relationship. People who hurt you do not have your best interests at heart.

 

9. Set aside time to relax, enjoy hobbies, and re-evaluate your goals regularly. Time spent this way helps you learn more about yourself.

 

10. Practice being in social occasions. Don’t isolate10 yourself from people. Try making one acquaintance at a time; eventually you circulate in large groups with skill and self-assurance.

 

Each of us is a unique, valuable individual. We are interesting in our personal ways. The better we understand ourselves, the easier it becomes to live up to our full potential. Let’s not allow shyness to block our chances for a rich and fulfilling life.

 

注释:

1. worrisome [5wQrisEm] a. 令人担心的,使人发愁的

2. adversely [5AdvE:sli] ad. 不利地,有害地

3. reassurance [7ri:E5FuErEns] n. 再保证,再安慰

4. inferiority [in7fiEri5Criti] n. 劣等,下位,自卑情绪,自卑感

5. detrimental [7detri5mentl] a. 有害的,不利的

6. timid [5timid] a. 胆怯的,羞怯的

7. accent [5AksEnt] vt. 着重,强调

 

如何克服你的羞怯感

 

对许多人来说,羞怯是造成很多不愉快的原因。有各种各样的人认为自己是羞怯的。羞怯的人焦虑不安,并有较强的自我意识,即他们过分关注自己的外表和举止。他们一天到晚提心吊胆。我给人们留下了什么印象?他们喜欢我吗?我冒傻气吗?我长得难看。我穿的衣服毫无吸引力。很显然,这种不自在的感觉会对人们产生不利的影响。一个人对自己的看法反映在其行为方式中,而一个人的行为方式又影响他人的反应。

  羞怯的人自尊心较弱,容易消极被动,并且易受他人影响。他们需要得到一再确认他们是在做“正确的事情”。羞怯的人对批评非常敏感。他们觉得批评证实他们不如他人。此外,他们也觉得很难因别人的赞美而高兴,因为他们认为自己不值得称赞。一个羞怯的人会以这样的话语来回答他人的赞美之辞:“你这么说只不过是想让我感觉好点罢了,我知道这不是真的。” 很明显,尽管自知之明是一种健康的品质,但过分的自我意识却是有害无益。那么,能彻底消除或至少减轻羞怯感吗?

  能!以下是一些具体有效的步骤,能帮助你树立自信心并克服羞怯感。

  1、认清自己的优缺点。每个人既有优点也有缺点。随着对自我的不断认同,羞怯感会自然减少。

  2、确定合理的目标。例如:你可能在聚会时和一群陌生人呆在一起会感到胆怯。不要觉得你必须和每一个人交谈。集中精力仅和一、两个人交谈,这样你会感到更自在些。

  3、内疚和羞耻感是相当消极的感情,不要因此而浪费时间和精力。假设你伤害了某人的感情,感到羞愧于事无补。相反,应该承认你犯了一个错误,并决心在将来更加注意考虑他人的感受。

  4、所有问题都有许多种解决途径,完全正确或完全错误的办法是很少的。不要怕开口,要敢于表达自己的意见。

  5、不要消极地评论自己。这是自我厌弃的一种形式。千万别认为自己是愚蠢的、难看的,或是个失败者。要强调积极的方面。

  6、理性地接受批评。不要把批评理解为人身攻击。例如有一位朋友说你的烹饪技术不高,把这当成是对你的烹饪技术而不是对你本人的评价而接受下来。确信你们还是好朋友,但也许你的烹饪技术有待改进。

  7、记住每个人都会经历一些失败和失望。把它们作为增长见识的经历,从中受益。挫折往往会成为一个转机,随之而来的将是一段美好的经历。例如,你可能被你所选择的大学拒之门外,然而在你现在就读的大学里,你可能发现这里的教学质量比你预想的要好。

  8、如果有人使你觉得自己不够好,那就不要同他们来往。设法改变他们的或你本人的态度,或者中止与他们交往。伤害你的人不会关心你真正的利益。

  9、留点时间休息、消遣,并且定期重新审定你的目标。为此所花的时间可以帮助你更好地了解自己。

  10、多在社交场合中锻炼。不要把自己同他人隔离开来。设法一次结识一位朋友,最终你将能够熟练自信地与众人交往。

我们每个人都是独一无二的、有价值的个体,自有吸引人之处。我们对自己了解得越多,就越容易充分发挥自己的潜力。不要让羞怯成为我们丰富生活和走向成功的绊脚石。

 

 


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1 swirling Ngazzr     
v.旋转,打旋( swirl的现在分词 )
参考例句:
  • Snowflakes were swirling in the air. 天空飘洒着雪花。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》
  • She smiled, swirling the wine in her glass. 她微笑着,旋动着杯子里的葡萄酒。 来自辞典例句
2 adversely 6zEzi6     
ad.有害地
参考例句:
  • We commented adversely upon the imbecility of that message of telegraphic style. 我们对着这条电报式的愚蠢的留言发泄了一通不满。
  • Widely fluctuating exchange rates may adversely affect international trade. 浮动幅度很大的汇率可能会对国际贸易产生有害的影响。
3 esteem imhyZ     
n.尊敬,尊重;vt.尊重,敬重;把…看作
参考例句:
  • I did not esteem him to be worthy of trust.我认为他不值得信赖。
  • The veteran worker ranks high in public love and esteem.那位老工人深受大伙的爱戴。
4 reassurance LTJxV     
n.使放心,使消除疑虑
参考例句:
  • He drew reassurance from the enthusiastic applause.热烈的掌声使他获得了信心。
  • Reassurance is especially critical when it comes to military activities.消除疑虑在军事活动方面尤为关键。
5 overdoing 89ebeb1ac1e9728ef65d83e16bb21cd8     
v.做得过分( overdo的现在分词 );太夸张;把…煮得太久;(工作等)过度
参考例句:
  • He's been overdoing things recently. 近来他做事过分努力。 来自辞典例句
  • You think I've been overdoing it with the work thing? 你认为我对工作的关注太过分了吗? 来自电影对白
6 detrimental 1l2zx     
adj.损害的,造成伤害的
参考例句:
  • We know that heat treatment is detrimental to milk.我们知道加热对牛奶是不利的。
  • He wouldn't accept that smoking was detrimental to health.他不相信吸烟有害健康。
7 converse 7ZwyI     
vi.谈话,谈天,闲聊;adv.相反的,相反
参考例句:
  • He can converse in three languages.他可以用3种语言谈话。
  • I wanted to appear friendly and approachable but I think I gave the converse impression.我想显得友好、平易近人些,却发觉给人的印象恰恰相反。
8 guilt 9e6xr     
n.犯罪;内疚;过失,罪责
参考例句:
  • She tried to cover up her guilt by lying.她企图用谎言掩饰自己的罪行。
  • Don't lay a guilt trip on your child about schoolwork.别因为功课责备孩子而使他觉得很内疚。
9 inadequate 2kzyk     
adj.(for,to)不充足的,不适当的
参考例句:
  • The supply is inadequate to meet the demand.供不应求。
  • She was inadequate to the demands that were made on her.她还无力满足对她提出的各项要求。
10 isolate G3Exu     
vt.使孤立,隔离
参考例句:
  • Do not isolate yourself from others.不要把自己孤立起来。
  • We should never isolate ourselves from the masses.我们永远不能脱离群众。
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