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疯狂情景会话真功夫 70.Whispering Love

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Imagine that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day, long ago,
[00:05.02]the Martians, looking into their telescopes, discovered the Venusians.
[00:09.51]Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened1 feelings they had never known.
[00:13.30]They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus.
[00:17.66]The Venusians welcome the Martians with open arms.
[00:20.58]The love between the Venusians and Martians was magical.
[00:24.14]They delighted in being together, doing things together and sharing together.
[00:29.28]Both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets, and were supposed to be different.
[00:36.36]And one morning, everything they had learned about their differences was erased2 from their memory.
[00:43.00]And since that day, men and women have been in conflict.
[00:48.04]The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that men don’t listen.
[00:53.97]Either a man completely ignores her when she speaks, or he listens for a few beats,
[00:59.22]assesses what is bothering her, and then he proudly puts on his Mr.Fix-it hat,
[01:04.05]and offers her a solution to make her feel better. No matter how many times she tells him that he’s not listening,
[01:10.74]he doesn’t get it, and he keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, he thinks she wants solutions.
[01:20.20]The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them.
[01:27.04]When a woman loves a man, she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things.
[01:34.59]She forms the Home Improvement Committee, and he becomes her primary focus.
[01:40.62]No matter how much he resists her help, she persists, waiting for an opportunity to help him or to tell him what to do.
[01:49.51]She thinks she’s nurturing3 him, while he feels he’s being controlled.
[01:54.68]Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement.
[02:00.08]Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results.
[02:05.26]Achieving goals is very important to a Martian, because it is the way for him to prove his competence4 and thus feel good about himself.
[02:14.09]And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself.
[02:20.28]To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own.
[02:28.82]Men are very touchy5 about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them.
[02:35.27]However, if he truly does need help, then it’s a sign of wisdom to get it.
[02:40.44]In this case, he’ll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem.
[02:46.16]Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice.
[02:50.29]Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr.Fix-it hat,
[02:56.82]listens for a few beats, and then offers some jewels of advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively6 offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems.
[03:11.53]Venusians have different values. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships and their communication.
[03:21.38]They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.
[03:25.58]Communication is of primary importance.
[03:29.66]To share their personal feelings is much more important than achieving goals or success.
[03:35.85]Talking and relating to one another is a source of tremendous fulfillment.
[03:40.55]Instead of being goal-oriented, women are relationship oriented. They are more concerned with expressing their goodness,
[03:49.30]their love, their caring. Venusians are very intuitive.
[03:54.00]They pride themselves on being considerate of the needs and feelings of others.
[03:59.57]A sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another Venusian without even being asked.
[04:06.18]Without this insight into the nature of men, it is very easy for a woman to unknowingly and unintentionally hurt and offend the man she loves most.
[04:16.57]Love is magical, and it can last if we remember our differences.


1 awakened de71059d0b3cd8a1de21151c9166f9f0     
v.(使)醒( awaken的过去式和过去分词 );(使)觉醒;弄醒;(使)意识到
  • She awakened to the sound of birds singing. 她醒来听到鸟的叫声。
  • The public has been awakened to the full horror of the situation. 公众完全意识到了这一状况的可怕程度。 来自《简明英汉词典》
2 erased f4adee3fff79c6ddad5b2e45f730006a     
v.擦掉( erase的过去式和过去分词 );抹去;清除
  • He erased the wrong answer and wrote in the right one. 他擦去了错误答案,写上了正确答案。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • He removed the dogmatism from politics; he erased the party line. 他根除了政治中的教条主义,消除了政党界限。 来自《简明英汉词典》
3 nurturing d35e8f9c6b6b0f1c54ced7de730a6241     
养育( nurture的现在分词 ); 培育; 滋长; 助长
  • These delicate plants need careful nurturing. 这些幼嫩的植物需要精心培育。
  • The modern conservatory is not an environment for nurturing plants. 这个现代化温室的环境不适合培育植物。
4 competence NXGzV     
  • This mess is a poor reflection on his competence.这种混乱情况说明他难当此任。
  • These are matters within the competence of the court.这些是法院权限以内的事。
5 touchy PJfz6     
  • Be careful what you say because he's touchy.你说话小心,因为他容易生气。
  • He's a little touchy about his weight.他对自己的体重感到有点儿苦恼。
6 instinctively 2qezD2     
  • As he leaned towards her she instinctively recoiled. 他向她靠近,她本能地往后缩。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • He knew instinctively where he would find her. 他本能地知道在哪儿能找到她。 来自《简明英汉词典》
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