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纽约时报 不要和你的孩子一起玩(2)

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    In the past, if they couldn't agree on a game's direction, I would try to help, only to make it worse:

    以前,如果他们不能就游戏的方向达成一致,我会尝试帮助他们,但这只会让事情变得更糟:

    I was a reality-TV host, watching helplessly as my contestants1 swapped2 insults at a show reunion.

    我就像一名真人秀主持人,无助地看着参赛者在节目重聚时互相辱骂。

    When Mom is there to listen, they turn defensive3 and mean; when I say, "Figure it out," they do.

    妈妈在场倾听时,他们会变得戒备且刻薄;当我说“解决”,他们会照做。

    I know I'm lucky they have each other to play with, and so I've taught myself to hold back.

    我知道我很幸运,因为他们两个可以一起玩,所以我学会了克制。

    I tell myself they're learning about compromise and boundaries. As am I.

    我告诉自己,他们正在学习妥协和界限。我也是。

    I'm distracted by work (and life). I have a bad temper. I can be critical.

    工作(和生活)令我分心。我脾气不好。我可能很挑剔。

    And I don't like to play, especially pretend, or anything with dolls or figures, or any games that ask me to hide or wield4 a Nerf gun.

    我不喜欢玩娃娃或玩偶或任何让我藏起来或挥舞玩具枪的游戏,尤其不喜欢假装玩。

    My motto is "Moms don't play." (The other context also applies: I do not play.)我的座右铭是“妈妈不玩”。(另一句话也适用:我不玩。)Our third child joined the family with this system in place, and he is, as most third children are, remarkably5 independent.

    我们的第三个孩子加入了实行这种制度的家庭,他和大多数第三个孩子一样,非常独立。

    I can't say that my approach is right for everyone. I know that it resonates for me in part because of how I was raised.

    我不能说我的方法适合所有人。我知道这在一定程度上与我的成长经历有关。

    I have no memories of my parents playing with me.

    我没有自已与父母一起玩的记忆。

    I can remember reading together and their swimming with me in the ocean,我记得他们和我一起读书,一起在海里游泳,

    but they weren't involved in the fashion shows I filmed with my sisters, and they didn't help me make my magazine, Kid Stuff, either.

    但是他们没有参与我和姐妹们拍摄的时装秀,他们也没有帮我做杂志,或是其他适合孩子玩的游戏。

    Not once did they dine at my fictional6 restaurant.

    他们从未在我虚构的餐厅里吃过饭。

    This isn't a complaint; it's gratitude7. They may not be a part of these memories, but they weren't absent either.

    这不是抱怨;而是感恩。他们可能不是这些记忆的一部分,但他们也没有缺席。

    They were on the edges — there but not there. My parents allowed me private worlds of my own creation, and they respected them.

    他们在边缘——既在又不在。我父母允许我拥有自己创造的私人世界,他们尊重我。

    I imagine they felt the same joy I do when I watch my children playing without me;我看着孩子们在没有我的情况下玩耍时会感到快乐,我想我的父母当时也和我一样快乐;my daughter opens a bakery as her older brother bounces on a giant rubber ball.

    我女儿开了一家面包店,她的哥哥在一个巨大的橡胶球上弹跳。

    The baby fills his garbage truck with blocks. Each of us enters his or her own separate sphere.

    婴儿则用积木装满了他的垃圾车。我们每个人都进入了自己独自的领域。

    This, I've realized, is my favorite part of mothering. My looking away and then observing.

    我意识到,这是我做母亲最喜欢的部分。我把目光移开,然后观察。

    When my kids and I stop doing our own things and come together, it's because we want to.

    我和孩子们停止做自己的事情,聚在一起时,那是因为我们想这样做。

    The activities we do together offer all of us pleasure; we opt8 in and because of this, we actually have fun.

    我们一起做的活动给我们所有人带来快乐;我们选择加入其中,正因为如此,我们会很开心。

    I may not play, but I'm goofy and affectionate, and I love to talk about feelings. I love to teach too: how to count, how to read, how to make guacamole.

    我可能不会玩,但我滑稽又亲切,我喜欢谈论感受。我也喜欢教学:比如如何数数,如何阅读,如何做鳄梨酱等。

    It feels good to be with my kids in these specific ways, and to let myself be there.

    用这些特别的方式和我的孩子在一起并让自已身处其中感觉很好。

    It took some time, but I've realized I can't be every kind of mother. I can only be one. I can only be theirs.

    虽然这花了一些时间,但我意识到我不能成为每一种母亲。我只能是一种母亲。我只能是他们的母亲。


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1 contestants 6183e6ae4586949fe63bec42c8d3a422     
n.竞争者,参赛者( contestant的名词复数 )
参考例句:
  • The competition attracted over 500 contestants representing 8 different countries. 这次比赛吸引了代表8个不同国家的500多名参赛者。
  • Two candidates are emerging as contestants for the presidency. 两位候选人最终成为总统职位竞争者。 来自《简明英汉词典》
2 swapped 3982604ac592befc46570aef4e827102     
交换(工作)( swap的过去式和过去分词 ); 用…替换,把…换成,掉换(过来)
参考例句:
  • I liked her coat and she liked mine, so we swapped. 我喜欢她的外套,她喜欢我的外套,于是我们就交换了。
  • At half-time the manager swapped some of the players around. 经理在半场时把几名队员换下了场。
3 defensive buszxy     
adj.防御的;防卫的;防守的
参考例句:
  • Their questions about the money put her on the defensive.他们问到钱的问题,使她警觉起来。
  • The Government hastily organized defensive measures against the raids.政府急忙布置了防卫措施抵御空袭。
4 wield efhyv     
vt.行使,运用,支配;挥,使用(武器等)
参考例句:
  • They wield enormous political power.他们行使巨大的政治权力。
  • People may wield the power in a democracy.在民主国家里,人民可以行使权力。
5 remarkably EkPzTW     
ad.不同寻常地,相当地
参考例句:
  • I thought she was remarkably restrained in the circumstances. 我认为她在那种情况下非常克制。
  • He made a remarkably swift recovery. 他康复得相当快。
6 fictional ckEx0     
adj.小说的,虚构的
参考例句:
  • The names of the shops are entirely fictional.那些商店的名字完全是虚构的。
  • The two authors represent the opposite poles of fictional genius.这两位作者代表了天才小说家两个极端。
7 gratitude p6wyS     
adj.感激,感谢
参考例句:
  • I have expressed the depth of my gratitude to him.我向他表示了深切的谢意。
  • She could not help her tears of gratitude rolling down her face.她感激的泪珠禁不住沿着面颊流了下来。
8 opt a4Szv     
vi.选择,决定做某事
参考例句:
  • They opt for more holiday instead of more pay.他们选择了延长假期而不是增加工资。
  • Will individual schools be given the right to opt out of the local school authority?各个学校可能有权选择退出地方教育局吗?
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